I originally tested so/sx actually. Also if you believe in typing people based on energy, I definitely have the energy of a so/sx as well. I just wonder why I seem so into self preservation stuff if I'm so/sx?
I don't know you at all and haven't been following this thread much, but I noticed this post and figured I'd respond. I'm married to an ESFP 6w7 who has to be a so/sx, I really can't see any other option but he also focuses on self pres stuff which can be confusing. The only thing I can attribute it to is that he's a six- and maybe also because he's a sensor?
Things I notice about him, though, that really seem self pres last. I'll contrast him with my sp/sx so you can see the difference:
He doesn't have an internal self monitor/ off switch like I do. For example, if he's out with his friends or doing anything that involves having a good time, he doesn't seem to notice that he's tired. Or if he's drinking and enjoying himself he just keeps on drinking- not to blood alcohol poisoning levels or anything, but more than he'd like. Conversely, if I'm tired, I'm tired and nothing is going to wake me up. Or if I'm done drinking, I'm done and no one can convince me to have another one (I have my once a year moments where my off switch disappears, too. The thing is it's
rare and everyone notices how different I am than my usual self.) He goes with the flow of his friends more than I think someone with self pres in the top two does. I marvel at this quality in him/ am confused by it, just as he marvels at my internal off switch/ is confused by it.
There are more things, too:
-He puts off scheduling his doctor appointments. If it weren't for me bugging him about it I don't know how long he'd go.
-When he gets injured or sick he asks me what I think he should do. When he got really sick last year I became his health researcher/advocate.
-He never works on maintaining the house or yard work or cleaning or cooking or grocery shopping (those are my responsibilities) and he gets really upset/ complains when he has to do these things. I don't love doing these things either but I see them as mandatory so I make sure they happen. Also, I'm really particular about food and how I want the yard/house to look so I prioritize it.
- He has endless amounts of energy. He jumps around like a puppy until he collapses, takes a quick nap, and is good to go again. I parcel my energy out and am for the most part contained/ withdrawn unless there's something I'm really excited about. Then I'll have a burst of energy which tires me out for weeks.
Things which seem self pres about him:
-He talks a lot about exercise and nutrition, but this has to do primarily with him being an older skateboarder and wanting to stay in shape so he can continue to do it. All of his talk about exercise and nutrition actually drives me nuts. I just take care of these things vs talking about them.
-He's worked at the same job for years and is always stressing out about money. He's fairly good at sticking to a budget. I am inconsistent in job matters (although I stress that I'm not consistent) and don't particularly stress about money. However, what I spend money on is good food and vitamins/supplements. I'm a total cheapskate on clothes/furniture and buy everything second hand, but I also love the aesthetic of used things and this is what my money goes towards. I spend about zero money on going out while all of his budget goes toward going out with friends and taking trips with them, etc. I can't imagine him ever spending money on house-related items.
I share this with you because you will see strengths and weaknesses in all of the instincts regardless of stacking. You really have to look at the forest vs the trees.
I see instincts like this, in a nutshell:
so: I will be there for others/ pay attention to others. me= my group/ humanity
sx: I will follow my passions. me= what I love
sp: I will take care of myself, my loved ones, and my surroundings. me= me and my most intimates, the material world
To clarify, social tends to provide more of an "I am there for you" support while self pres provides more of a practical, material support. Social gives a hug while self pres makes a sandwich- or, more likely, teaches the other person how to make a sandwich for themselves. Social idealizes community while self pres idealizes self sufficiency. (And sexual idealizes passion.)
Which do you, ultimately, prioritize/ idealize?