SecondBest
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It seems pretty clear to me that the internet has provided a way in which people can share themselves openly to others with varying degrees of security and comfort. The mask of relative anonymity is certainly one big factor, but this question is intriguing to me:
What is it about TypoC in particular that engenders such emotional and personal exposes?
For me, what has, at the very least, kept me here for as long as I have been (internet-wise - three weeks + is a long time for me), are the values upon which this community is based. If you're interested in Typology in the slightest bit, it says to me that, at the very least, you are someone who is interested in understanding yourself, if not other people as well. The strength of a community is going to be primarily, if not solely, dependent on the values around which it gathers.
Emotional healing or catharsis also, in my opinion, has no better ally than compassion and understanding. There is a reason why when somebody kicks you in the shin, your instinctual reaction is to want to kick the person back or possibly worse. You want the person to feel at least EXACTLY what you are feeling. This equal-or-more exchange in pain is what allows a person to feel understood, and by feeling understood, are able to recover from their experience. It's not dissimilar to the desire to exchange money that is equal in value to the goods or services you are looking to acquire. And if the person that has done you harm is unavailable, you'll take it out on someone else. The point is that such emotional decisions, anywhere from a personal expose to a vengeful attack, is a plea for this kind of understanding that can lead to true healing.
As far as privacy is concerned, my personal approach to vulnerability and exposing myself to anyone anywhere, not just the internet, is based on this rule:
If I tell anyone other than myself, then I can pretty much assume that everyone knows. That is to say, the best kept secret is the one you keep only to yourself. So if I am telling a story that I would not feel comfortable having everyone in the world know about, then I keep my mouth shut.
What do you think it is about TypoC that makes it a place for such personal yet public exchanges?
What are your own rules with regard to personal privacy? And finally...
Why are you here? And why do you stay?
Feel free to post any thoughts at all.
**NOTE**
Not sure how to linkback or whatever, so i'll post the related thread here. Forum and Online Dynamics