No, but I want a judger without the judger. Still all judger, but won't annoy me, get in my way, try to routinize/schedule my life, and all the other annoying things judgers do. I have no problems with judgers if they do their judger thing in their own world, and leave mine alone, but they never do. So, even with all the perceiver problems that would come from being with another perceiver, and while it would be nice to avoid them, happiness, peace of mind, satisfaction with life, liking your partner, etc puts them ahead of the judgers. By a lot. I can't take anymore of this nagging, annoying, judgmental, obsessed about things that don't matter, need to tell everyone what to do, need everything spelled out, scheduled, and done according to their timetable BS!
The only judgers that would work are INFJs, which is probably what's going to happen (or would've been what would happen, if the idiots torturing me didn't shit on my life).
Yeah, I kind of want a crutch for the "J stuff" also. I want someone to organize stuff, but not tell me what to do, hahaha. I will note that my experience with an INFJ was good there, so let it be on record that I've stated something positive about an INFJ.
However, I was reading in that type and intimacy book that NJs may resent NPs plopping all the mundane organizational tasks of daily life on them, but I'm pretty sure everyone will resent that about NPs. In reality, we can pull our weight, but it just doesnt have the scheduled regularity others desire, or you cannot force us to notice/care until we want to.
While my relationships with other NFPs can be the easiest, I dont find myself romantically attracted; there is too much "knowing". Comfortable, but perhaps dull. With FPs in general, I may find myself always having to be the "logical" one, which I begin to resent. On the other hand, the air of acceptance is very refreshing.
FJs can be too much emotional maintenance. They can be very draining and I get tired of being their therapist and sounding board. I find some Fe-dom men charming, but I dont know about the long-run. I'm pretty sure my lack of social savvyness will bother them, and often I think they just want some cultural ideal, which is too much pressure. IxxP males get an easy pass for being male, but there are higher expectations for women in this area, some of which I fail to meet.
I feel like a TJ will just act like my dad (not my actual dad, who doesnt act like my dad) and criticize me a lot. In the book I was reading, it says INFPs do well with ESTJs because they dont mind being told what to do (paraphrasing) - Hahahahahahaaaa! Maybe an NTJ would work, but they are hard to come across. INFPs and ENTJs dont really run in the same circles, and to me, if you dont naturally cross paths, then its for a good reason.
TPs are also too child-like and I may get annoyed at having to be the adult. Se-dom, including ESTPs, tend to like me, but it can feel really shallow to me. It can seem like we are on the same page, until I realize it is the same page of totally different books.
NTPs and I argue too much, and even if fun at first, it's too exhausting for the long-term.
In the end, everyone is equally terrible. It will come down to who is willing to woo me, tolerate me, and look hot while doing it.