Nadir
Enigma
- Joined
- Dec 17, 2007
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So... if nothing is fake except these cases, why do I feel like bad for faking a smile?
I feel that this is the question to ask. I would venture to guess that it is because of the incompatibility between your internal world and the external world -- a necessity of life for most people, but perhaps you feel it moreso. As an introvert, and an introverted feeler, your emotions arise from you. Within the realm of your mind there are no limits put on the conception of those emotions -- you feel what you want to feel, think what you want to think without regard to other, external factors. If, you, for example, find the way people socialize unsuitable for your tastes, or have different ideas than most about how friendships are formed then that's that. Only, you can not impose your own socializing/friendship standards on the external world. So the reverse happens -- the external world, the enviroment where you live, populated by people, inadvertently imposes its own standards on you. So you find yourself smiling even if you don't feel like smiling, because that's what is expected of you -- yet this was never about fulfilling what was expected of you, and now it is, as to do the opposite would not result in acceptance. (Why is acceptance so important? Because the modern human, introverted or extroverted or however dichotomized, is an inherently social creature.) So the smile is "fake", forced -- and you feel bad about it because you feel you've been driven away from your comfort zone.
Of course, I'm not stating all of the above as fact... perhaps I'm completely off?