TheEmeraldCanopy
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How might one better discover or utilize their weak Fe (deep down inside)?
I've been feeling like I'm just shooting in the dark... or inauthentic every time I try.
One of my friends described it to me as acting, of sorts, and that you just have to imagine the situation. If I try to place myself in someone else's shoes, I feel as though I project my own subjective feelings onto the situation even if I try not to do so. I believe that somehow I can never fully understand the depth of what they are going through, and that I lack the ability (or the focus?) to fully understand their situation and therefore, to fully comfort or help someone in that sense. I would like to help others, but I feel there is not all that much I can do.
I know it was brought up in another thread previously how INFPs relate things back to themselves, and that is how we understand things. Similarly, if a friend is going through a time period where they need help, I feel I can only try to relate to their situation through my own experiences but never fully get the complete picture (unless they provide plenty of details to help me along, or I know all of the people involved and can come up with an idea of what is happening and how to resolve it). Another way is through something VERY similar happening to me.
If I have enough detail to paint a good picture of what is happening or happened, I can at least somewhat better relate to how they are feeling. However, I can't quite tell them what to do next once I get to this point. I can offer my opinion but... my advice is usually limited, again, unless it's something with which I've had actual experience.
I'm incredibly stuck as to how to go about developing this function. Any advice?
I've been feeling like I'm just shooting in the dark... or inauthentic every time I try.
One of my friends described it to me as acting, of sorts, and that you just have to imagine the situation. If I try to place myself in someone else's shoes, I feel as though I project my own subjective feelings onto the situation even if I try not to do so. I believe that somehow I can never fully understand the depth of what they are going through, and that I lack the ability (or the focus?) to fully understand their situation and therefore, to fully comfort or help someone in that sense. I would like to help others, but I feel there is not all that much I can do.
I know it was brought up in another thread previously how INFPs relate things back to themselves, and that is how we understand things. Similarly, if a friend is going through a time period where they need help, I feel I can only try to relate to their situation through my own experiences but never fully get the complete picture (unless they provide plenty of details to help me along, or I know all of the people involved and can come up with an idea of what is happening and how to resolve it). Another way is through something VERY similar happening to me.
If I have enough detail to paint a good picture of what is happening or happened, I can at least somewhat better relate to how they are feeling. However, I can't quite tell them what to do next once I get to this point. I can offer my opinion but... my advice is usually limited, again, unless it's something with which I've had actual experience.
I'm incredibly stuck as to how to go about developing this function. Any advice?