2XtremeENFP
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ENFP here thinking of getting an ESFP roommate, she's a close friend that i've known for about 8 years pros? cons? Discuss
Make sure that your finances are completely separate.
As annoyingly J-ish as it sounds, post a list of rules somewhere where both of you can see it. Example of rule: "no boyfriends/girlfriends stay over night without the other persons' consent"
Make sure that you start saving money for a medical emergency that could cover at least 2 full days in a hospital (granted you have insurance). Preferably 2,000 dollars or more after 8 months of living together.
Buy a first aid kit as well as some anti-histamine caught medicine, and something for diarrhea, something for constipation.
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Keeping a room mate is a big responsibility.
This is very good advice, but I've never known anyone who has done any of these things. I had to laugh when I read this, ObeyBunny Very, very J. Very, very INTJ. I find it unlikely that the ENFP original poster will implement these strategies... even though they should.
I think we need more info about your relationship with this person to give better responses.
What are your fears / concerns with moving in with this ESFP?
And I'm not sure what my fears/concerns are, really. I guess mainly just like handling conflict.
How ESFPs Build Relationships
For them, team relationships are about caring, sharing the work, and having fun together. Warm and friendly, they help by listening to what teammates are trying to do, questioning to get a clear picture, and reflecting back to them what they hear being said. They work very hard to see other people’s points of view, although they often want what they want when they want it. They will make the effort to get really involved in the team...
How ESFPs Deal with Conflict
If they had their way, there would be no conflict. But when there is they usually try to make light of a situation to shift the attention to something more positive. When the team has a problem, they expect real progress to be made toward a solution...
To Forge Better Relationships with ESFPs…
Provide a team environment that allows them autonomy and freedom from routine and hierarchy. They handle structure but for only a short time—even if they put it on themselves. They like clear direction with freedom to do what they see is needed. Freedom from boredom gives them the strength to do what they need to but don’t want to. Don’t tell them they “can’t†do something. Describe potential roadblocks and problems as challenges...
How ESFPs Approach Doing Work
They are most likely to be stimulating action, getting things going to get things done. They tend to be very good at multitasking and they like it. They have a sort of everybody-pitch-in attitude that engenders team spirit and high energy...
How ESFPs Make Decisions
Decisions usually come quickly for them about what action to take, but they may vary the decision when new options for action are seen. In the time it takes others to notice something, they’re already acting on it. They take in a lot of rich detail, noticing minimal non-verbal cues...
How ESFPs Respond to Change
They are generally adaptable and accept the realities of a situation. They are especially tuned in to people and their reactions. They adapt to change based on what is important in relation to what is happening in their immediate external world, attending to what will make people satisfied and seeking to help them...
And I'm not sure what my fears/concerns are, really. I guess mainly just like handling conflict. I know that i tend to hold things in, and that I can rationalize inward and get over problems, but I know that sometimes she does the same thing, but she is waaay more confrontational than me. and I am worried she will get mad over small things and want to talk about it all the time. Some of our friendship problems in the past have stemmed from us getting mad at eachother and not bringing it to surface til it's too late, but that was years ago, I think we are more mature now. Also, I know that in the past, she has always been concerned with me not letting her 'fully' in--that is, not telling her everything about my thoughts, and my life, but I feel that I tell her stuff, just not everything; I think she finds offense.