proteanmix
Plumage and Moult
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Totally 110% agree with this post. I've long thought and consequently ignored most of the S-type driven "problems" people on MBTI-related forums have. I've noticed they've mostly proliferated by
- teenagers or those dependent in some way on their sensor "persecutor"
- those who have had a bad romantic or other intimate relationships and attribute the normal people problem stuff to a sensor-intuitive problem. There's a sadly defeatist attitude about these relationships on type forums.
- ideological differences that people believe stem from the inability of sensors, particularly SJs, to relinquish what people believe to be dogmatic or archaic belief systems instead of once again looking to see what they are dogmatic and rabid about. Trying to beat the other person in an argument rather than trying to have meaningful discussion and cultivating an atmosphere where that can happen.
- inability to connect in a meaningful way with other people and blaming the lack of connection on most others being sensors, instead of a possible problem stemming from self
- rampant miscommunication and the expectation of others to psychically know what they feel, think, want, and need. This is especially apparent when people describe their ideal romantic relationships.
I'm not saying there aren't legitimate complaints and legitimate miscommunications but they've all been lost in the tsunami of completely unrelated type bullshit. I can't help but be reminded of the saying that people say that they see but they don't, because if they did you'd see some productiveness from seeing and knowing. I read so often about the intuitive ability to see many sides to a situation, but I see no evidence of this in the way people talk about their persistence interpersonal problems they have. People would rather climb Mt. Everest butt naked than actually hammer out the root problems. It's easier to blame it on the Type and throw your hands up in the air. The same problems will follow you from relationship to relationship instead of dealing with it.
And what makes it even sadder is that even though MBTI isn't legitimately accepted by psychologists I think it does contain the potential to at least get people primed into thinking that people are psychologically different and it's OK to be different within a healthy range of behavior. It lets people know that being introverted and extroverted isn't a defect and the same thing with the other dichotomies. But people continually piss in the well and it turns people off that could use it in a beneficial way.