Priori
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- Nov 7, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
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- 5w6
What do you WANT to do? If you stopped thinking about it and just responded?
I think sometimes INTPs make this a lot harder than it needs to be.
Because everything has to be "rational."
Just shut off your brain a sec and imagine your response to her if you were on autopilot.
A very wise person once gave me same advice. I think mayhaps she rues that day.
If you both have agreed that you can't court right now, then that is a boundary that can create a sense of security in a girl's mind. It's possible that she just wants to be near you and be with you, while expecting you to respect the boundary. She could even be testing you to see how much you respect her based on how willing you are to continue to respect the boundary. I can't imagine how you can go wrong erring on the side of caution.
Or maybe she wants to be chased, to know that he wants her even though it’s forbidden but can’t help himself. Maybe she wants him to be aggressive, to break the rules so she can just passively go along with it all the awhile protesting how wrong it is and yet still cling to him passionately.
She hasn't proposed marriage, but she's said some things to me that have twisted my soul more tightly than a wet rag. Why do you women have this power over us men? Do we do the same to you? It would only be just!
Yes we do. Wait until you see it in her eyes, you'll never be the same. Use it.