Cypocalypse
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I have an NF friend. I can't really figure out the actual MBTI type. Probably INFJ or INFP. I can't really tell for certain. Being an INTP myself, she's among the friends that I really respect. Big picture thinker, and well in touch with her emotions. Basically one of the few friends, whom I consider to be competent enough to read me.
Being an INTP myself, I also have that "confidant" role. I think it's an NP thing. But between NTP and NFP, I consider the latter to be the better archetype for the role since it's probably more empathic (can relate to the problem of the person who confides, or at least can visualize it), while the NTP is more analytical one (can assess the situation of the confider).
By virtue of being the feeler type and sheer seniority, I consider her to be the better person in this role. Sure, we do share life experiences just to have something to chat around.
I notice one glaring difference though.
My more analytical outlook creates a mentality that I should look for no one to be an anchor to my personal disposition, other than myself (unless I can find tons of NTP, NFP, or NFJ peeps to brainstorm myself with). Call it individualistic, but experience-wise, intuitive types are often times misunderstood, and I've come into terms with myself there's no outside anchor that can help me aside from myself primarily, hence a sense of self should be strong (not necessarily confrontational though).
I told her myself that she's equally in the same situation. She's the top of the line confidant, and thus she shouldn't expect much for an external anchor. She is, other people's anchor.
I immediataly didin't realize that the Feeling cognitive process will set a major difference. She's prone to exaggerating her negative emotions (which I would sometimes find trivial). While she's good as a recipient of other people's negative sentiments, she's fragile herself--good healer of others, but dealing with her own "wounds" is a different story. She's, essentialy, looking for an outside anchor.
Is this a general NF thing?
Being an INTP myself, I also have that "confidant" role. I think it's an NP thing. But between NTP and NFP, I consider the latter to be the better archetype for the role since it's probably more empathic (can relate to the problem of the person who confides, or at least can visualize it), while the NTP is more analytical one (can assess the situation of the confider).
By virtue of being the feeler type and sheer seniority, I consider her to be the better person in this role. Sure, we do share life experiences just to have something to chat around.
I notice one glaring difference though.
My more analytical outlook creates a mentality that I should look for no one to be an anchor to my personal disposition, other than myself (unless I can find tons of NTP, NFP, or NFJ peeps to brainstorm myself with). Call it individualistic, but experience-wise, intuitive types are often times misunderstood, and I've come into terms with myself there's no outside anchor that can help me aside from myself primarily, hence a sense of self should be strong (not necessarily confrontational though).
I told her myself that she's equally in the same situation. She's the top of the line confidant, and thus she shouldn't expect much for an external anchor. She is, other people's anchor.
I immediataly didin't realize that the Feeling cognitive process will set a major difference. She's prone to exaggerating her negative emotions (which I would sometimes find trivial). While she's good as a recipient of other people's negative sentiments, she's fragile herself--good healer of others, but dealing with her own "wounds" is a different story. She's, essentialy, looking for an outside anchor.
Is this a general NF thing?