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How do you get rid of it?
In particular:
- anxieties
- perfectionism
- tendencies towards depression and negative affectivity
- immoderation
- obsession
- low self-esteem/self-worth
- unrealistically high demands on self
- others you care to write about
Anxieties, unrealistic demands, perfectionism, obsession are born of immoderation, methinks...
Perhaps an inability to bring things into proper perspective - in a natural state, worries are healthy, as they provide a normalcy check.
But out of balance, they result in us making unrealistic demands on ourselves and others, trying to quell deep-seated fears, trying to be perfect as an escape away from being anxious. The link to self-esteem is here: Since it is impossible to be perfect, we start going on a negative cycle and depression. Which feeds anxiety all over again. Vicious cycle. But it is all linked so it becomes hard to break out of, as the brain forms a web of it.
Refocusing is in order. I consciously tell myself to breathe. To put a pause on the Ti looping. Focus on something neutral e.g. the image of a flower in my hand. Patterns on my desk.
It is a hard task to re-wire the mind - I'm still trying. Basically to bring things into proper perspective, not to magnify good or bad, but things in their proper context. It entails stepping back to what was familiar. Even if it means going back all the way.
Recognising
what triggers the anxieties help too. So before fear sets in, I'd have prepared myself for it, so it doesn't seem as big. Or if it is the unnamed anxiety of Fe, I'd have called some friends, or distracted myself by taking a walk.
All those are short-term.
Long-term, it is to rebuild a sense of self. That's why my thread question on Fi/Si.. which no one answered.
Hope that helps..