I disagree with that... to me one of the most important things in a relationship is mutual trust... if I don't trust my SO enough that I NEED to feel controlling and jealous of them I shouldn't be with them, and the same applies vice versa. I value loyalty highly, and being suspected of being disloyal by someone I love is a slap in the face... I don't want to be with them if they can't trust me- because that means that it won't work.
Affection is important, show me that you value me, just don't control me and distrust me, or the relationship has proven that it's on the rocks in your mind, so what's the point?
It's fine if you text me while I'm out on occasion to check on me, or if you give the man who's creeping on me in the bar an evil look while kissing my cheek... that shows that you DO value me (especially scaring off creeps... it's hard to get rid of creepers!)... acting all psycho when I'm talking to another guy, always having to know what I'm doing, who I'm with and sending friends out to check on what I'm up to is NOT cool... that shows that you care more about
owning me than you care about me
and ANY man who looks through my cell phone or checks my e-mails is going to get dumped immediatly... I don't do ANYTHING for warrenting such suspicious behavior