LEGERdeMAIN
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The cattle owner is concerned about the welfare of the cattle.
Prior to slaughter.
OMG, lets share prose.
The cattle owner is concerned about the welfare of the cattle.
Prior to slaughter.
Is it a negative thing, a positive thing?
Is it an indication of faltering self esteem or insecurity?
Does it show they truly care about you?
Does it show that they don't trust you to be faithful?
What does jealousy in a partner say to you?
jealousy is a sign of weakness
YLJ stance on jealousy is curious to me:
What say yee on the subject of jealousy in a romantic relationship?
Is it a negative thing, a positive thing?
Is it an indication of faltering self esteem or insecurity?
Does it show they truly care about you?
Does it show that they don't trust you to be faithful?
What does jealousy in a partner say to you?
so is being in love! oh well!
I've never understood the concept of jealousy. If you're in a commited relationship, what have you got to worry about? If somebody is making a pass at your SO, its their responsibility to stay true to the relationship and turn the person down. If they don't, the fault lies with the SO for not upholding your relationship. Now if they've turned somebody down and that person keeps pushing, then its time to step in. Its not a matter of jealousy at that point, its somebody disrespecting and harassing a loved one.
I never got that about other guys. They always want to 'beat that guy's ass for hitting on my woman'. Dude, a guy is gonna be a guy, he sees an attractive woman, he's gonna make a try. And women'll do the same thing. If your SO cheats on you, I don't blame the person they cheated with, I blame the SO for not staying true to their commitment.
As for people checking someone else out, catcalls, etc., I consider it a little flattering in a way. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and sometimes its nice to know that other people recognize the attractiveness of your SO. If the appreciation turns disrespectful though, I will defend my lady's honor.
Again, relationships are not algorithmic. You don't have to "understand" the "concept" of jealousy. It's much more primal, usually reasoning won't be able to curb it.
I must be somewhat lacking in that primal instinct then. I've had the occasional pang of jealously before, but never to the degree that I felt the overwhelming need to act on it.
Yeah, I agree with this. It seems like a lot of people are quick to defend feeling jealous. It doesn't seem like a good emotion if you ask me. A healthier relationship would be one where jealousy never enters into the picture.
I wouldnt say so, I would consider that indifference to be something you'd associate with an acquaintence rather than a lover.
I think most people when they are talking about jealousy arent talking about the sort of obsessive, clingy or pathological variety.
Its a thread divided by a common language.
I must be somewhat lacking in that primal instinct then. I've had the occasional pang of jealously before, but never to the degree that I felt the overwhelming need to act on it.
I hear that. It's interesting how displays of trust and confidence get tied into the concept of indifference for some; with anxiety about one's worth or value as a positive sign of love, and security and confidence as something potentially negative.And I'm not really advocating indifference, more like a level of trust and/or loyalty that transcends jealousy? I dunno.