Ok, back to my wierdo...
Well, to better give you a look on a context : I met him on a christian website and he seems to have a long term membership (this site once gave for a very cheap price but now it's more expensive) and not being very often connected to that site.
Anyway, on tuesday night, as we were talking online, I thought he made very obvious, he didn't want to invest so much time into the getting to know each other process. So i wrote him an email, where i said, i didn't want to further invest my own time getting to know him because there were not much reciprocity in that investment. He wrote back as soon as he got the email that he was sad about the news, that he basically didn't really look for more than friendship in the very first time (so why suscribe to an online dating site then?) and if friendship grows, maybe he would consider an investment for more... That he is truly busy : lawyer, training in law, teacher in law at times, judge and so on (can one person really do several of those jobs?). But that he enjoys the few times we speak. (so why not talk more?)
he appreciated my openess and the fact that I told him how i feel about him, underlined each time i said very openly what i expect from him and said he values a lot honesty and openess in relationships. That he likes my communication style and so on. Then we had our first "deep" conversation about our lives. And also, he sent a nice note in the evening to wish me a good day the next day since he wouldn't be online. He said : see, im listening to what you say.
At this point, I am still unsure (remember I am P), still cautious (ENFP therefore kinda paranoid at times). But still open to get to know him. But I won't wait on him. If i ever meet anyone else I find interesting in between, i'll take the time to get to know that other person who is ready to invest into a getting to know process. I am just "open".
This guy seems kinda typical for male christian guys : happy to be single, not bound and cautious about/slow entering relationships....
To answer veneti's question, why not any guy closer? Because there were not any on that site. But of course, this were cool!
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