I'm a female INTJ. My T is near my F, so I do access both and it's miserable.
I can care so deeply, far too much, then flip and become quite objective in that "poke it with a stick and see what it does" way. I am highly passionate about the things I care about, mostly people, yet can write quite coolly about vile subjects. I loved my kids but unfortunately expected more of their ages than they could reasonably do. Still, they managed to muddle through my parenting and come out fairly reasonably. I see someone in a perceived underdog position or hear someone put someone else down, and I'm very apt to stomp over and heatedly interfere in that exchange. If someone needs help, if I see it and feel I can help, I will offer.
I'm stepping through a depression right now and trying to come out the other side of it. I have anxiety issues because I do care about people while not caring what they think about me unless I know them, then I worry and fret I've pissed them off unduly (stepping on toes is not an issue because that happens, but needlessly hurting someone stresses me).
I have cut people permanently from my life and grieved over the loss, but still do not talk to them this day unless they approach me and apologize or prove why I was wrong.
I can pull people's life stories out in the checkout line and do that routinely, but I'm tired after shopping trips and need a nap after I get everything put away. Parties and meetings have me talkative and chatty with people with the bubbling enthusiasm lasting until I get home, then I'm exhausted and want no noise, talking, questions, or discussion for the rest of the night and usually the next day. I tend to avoid these things because the overall emotions sweep me away to either join to oppose just as emotionally - which can have bad results at times.
I wear black and jeans a lot because I can't be bothered to color co-ordinate. My hair is short because it requires little time to fix. Dresses and skirts are horrid things that require painful shaving and fixing up that I see little point in. I understand society has fashions and trends, but I fail to see why those should impact my life. My nails are neatly trimmed and clipped, but I've never had a manicure/pedicure because what's the point.
That's my INTJ life as a female.