The Outsider
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- Feb 3, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- intp
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- 5w4
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- sx
I never express anything to anyone.
I'm serious.
I'm serious.
The number of people I truly open up to, I can count on one hand and have fingers left over. Even with these people, there is no one person who I am 100% open with, not even my DH or my mom. I think a lot, no most, people are judgmental and I don't have time for that. If I get judgmental vibes from you, I will shut myself off instantly.
I see a lot on insinuations on this board that INFPs seem to whine to whoever will listen.
Maybe this is due to that fact that some people use online anonymity to vent safely (true of myself anyway).
While I can be whiny like anyone, IRL, it's with a very select few people that I am extremely close to. Casual friends hardly know much about me at all aside from the external, and most people complain I keep a wall up. Example: if I am dating someone, no one knows about it. If they do, and it ends, I don't talk about it with female friends like most women do. People try and pry this out of me and I shut them down fast.
That said, I NEVER communicate my problems or personal life (experiences rather than random thoughts and feelings) to anyone other than my family (only when provoked), one friend (only when provoked), and my poor, poor cat.
This makes me wonder. What is the difference between an INFP/INFJ on this issue? I have close friends that are INFP. I find them much easier to deal with than my INFJ friends. I love all of them, but INFP's are as sweet as they come and seem to open up quite easily.
How do INFPs handle their problems?
I don't like to talk about things. It feels uncomfortable to me.
Plus, when I actually do open up it gushes. I'm very self-conscious of this.