First of all she's not being a bitch... She's asserting her own preferences and rights...
Show me where in my post that I said the girl in the video was being a bitch?
The quoted part for instance is alien to me... Cause the way you've been acting feels to me as if you've been some kind of a "sinner" in the first half of your life and with age you've become wiser and have seen the error of your ways and are now repenting...
I'm going to answer the second part of this first. I have changed with age, but I don't think I've changed that much. Not in certain fundamental ways. I've gained a lot of experience which has changed how I view things. Here's an example that has nothing to do with type: I grew up in the 60s--peace, love, rock & roll. When I was very young, I took in the message that war was bad (which it is), but along with that message, I also took in the message that the soldiers fighting the war were somehow bad, too. This was the Vietnam era, in the US. The soldiers returning home were vilified for atrocities, drug use, and losing. And I was a pre-teen, so my understanding of the concept of war and the soldiers' role in it was oversimplified. I thought that we could do away with war and soldiers and all live in peace if people just were nice to each other. Gradually, that view changed as I grew away from the ideal in my head by observing how the world and the people in it actually worked. And also, the societal messages changed, too, and I took those in and learned to evaluate them rather than accept them blindly. The way I view war didn't change much, but I did start to see that human nature is such that conflict is almost inevitable. Even in a peaceful world, all it takes is one person wanting power or land or attention. And I learned that people are mostly indifferent. They want to live their lives in peace, and as long as there is some semblance of "it's not affecting me, so it's not my problem", they won't take a stand. Even me. I work this way, too. Mostly indifferent. Wanting to live my life in peace. Anyway...
Back to the first part of your statement. I'm not a sinner, I'm human. I'm flawed and I make mistakes. As for how that's playing out here on this forum, I realize it looks like atonement, and some of it certainly feels like atonement to me, and in a real way it is atonement. When I started here on the forum, there were Fi/Fe and INFJ/INFP wars going on. I was mystified. What was these people's beef with INFJs and Fe? I'm not this horrible person that they keep saying I am. I definitely have the same needs for feeling understood and for time to process my thoughts and emotions. Yeah, I vent out loud, and sometimes what I say about others is really ugly, but I definitely don't intend to cause pain or misunderstandings, and besides, we all do it--all humans act this way. What the heck do they want from me? What is the problem here? I just don't see it. But the same complaints would come up from people who didn't seem to have a beef, too. The back and forth kept happening and it seemed to be getting nowhere, so I retreated to my blog to work on my own family issues, to record my care giving experiences, and to explore typology by letting people have an honest look into my head as I did these things. My blog's a mess, much like my mind is.
And then a lot of things happened all at about the same time. I started to have some interesting discussions about typology and it was exciting to see the connections that were starting to form. And just as suddenly as it started, it ended. I won't go into specifics, but, again, several things that had nothing to do with each other happened at about the same time and the discussions came to a screeching halt. (Heh. It just occurred to me as I'm writing this that my reaction was to go off into a metaphorical bathroom, just like I went into a real one when I was frustrated as a kid. Pretty funny.) Anyway, I took that time away to think about all that had happened and to try to deal with all of the emotions that resulted, and eventually came back out of that metaphorical bathroom. I still couldn't see what the problem was with Fe and INFJs, but I missed the interesting discussions and went looking for others. You should know the rest of the story from the doorslam thread, so I'm not going to repeat it here. And my time, right now, is limited, so I'm going to jump ahead and say that I finally did see what the problem was with Fe and INFJs, at least here on this forum. And I decided that, when opportunities came up, I would speak up about what I learned. And since what I learned deals with the problems with Fe and INFJs, and not the benefits of Fe and INFJ, my posts come off as the sinner atoning for her sins. And, like I said before, that atonement is really there*, but it's not all that's there. It's all that certain people are focusing on, so they can't see the rest of what I'm saying.
I gotta go take care of real life for a bit. I'll answer the rest of this post when I can.
ETA: *The atonement is a pattern I hadn't noticed before, so it'll probably show up until I pay more attention to it and figure it out.