JFrombaugh
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- Jan 27, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
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- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
(Note: When I say "Authority" in this post I'm mostly referring to relationships with instructors, bosses at work, group leaders, etc. - not how well INFJs would perform in a leadership role)
I've always been reading about how ISFJs are described as being people who are very service-oriented & loyal to authority (and hence they often find satisfaction in service careers, medical, etc), but yet INFJs seem to be more oriented towards being valued for their unique contributions, which leads me to ask this:
When you're faced with an authority figure (like a teacher or a supervisor) that you don't like or have issues with their approach to leadership, how well are you able to just accept their authority/put your feelings aside to get the job done?
I'm just curious as I'm an INFP and this is something that I have always kind of had trouble with. I mean, I'm loyal to authority for a time, until I begin to feel that they're just pushing me around rather than leading based on what is best for the greater good. I can be a loyal follower to the right kind of leader, but if I don't like the person in charge, it will show.
I know everybody has had teachers/bosses they've hated, what I'm saying is, I think that the problem about it for me is that the toxicity that these experiences engender seems to linger in the INF mind. Perhaps it's because authority figures usually seem to expect quieter people like me to bend to their will, just going along with whatever they say rather than risk a confrontation. Or maybe it's just the stress of being a 4w5 and then seeing somebody more outspoken than me try to install a mentality in me that I personally disagree with/have no desire to become.
So are you INFJs the same way or are you better able to give & take orders easily?
I've always been reading about how ISFJs are described as being people who are very service-oriented & loyal to authority (and hence they often find satisfaction in service careers, medical, etc), but yet INFJs seem to be more oriented towards being valued for their unique contributions, which leads me to ask this:
When you're faced with an authority figure (like a teacher or a supervisor) that you don't like or have issues with their approach to leadership, how well are you able to just accept their authority/put your feelings aside to get the job done?
I'm just curious as I'm an INFP and this is something that I have always kind of had trouble with. I mean, I'm loyal to authority for a time, until I begin to feel that they're just pushing me around rather than leading based on what is best for the greater good. I can be a loyal follower to the right kind of leader, but if I don't like the person in charge, it will show.
I know everybody has had teachers/bosses they've hated, what I'm saying is, I think that the problem about it for me is that the toxicity that these experiences engender seems to linger in the INF mind. Perhaps it's because authority figures usually seem to expect quieter people like me to bend to their will, just going along with whatever they say rather than risk a confrontation. Or maybe it's just the stress of being a 4w5 and then seeing somebody more outspoken than me try to install a mentality in me that I personally disagree with/have no desire to become.
So are you INFJs the same way or are you better able to give & take orders easily?