My thing is that I *have* felt that
I have met a few people I've really connected with - really deeply, and really sensed great possibilities as far as longterm romance/relationship goes, but they have never been emotionally available or desirous of exploring that. I guess one could argue they were 'just not that into me' (which is a possibility),
but at the same time I *know* they really liked me and cared for me. I don't know if it was fear, or selfishness, or self-protection, or what..any number of reasons. Just has never lined up for me -
both people in the same place at the same time, both attracted, similar life goals, etc etc. Ah well. I associate romance/chemistry with bittersweetness. I have it in small doses that don't ever go anywhere.
I obviously don't know the "type" of those you have had connections with, but when I read this, I couldn't help but think, "this could have been me". What I mean is, someone who cares about you deeply, would do just about anything in the world for you, and who you can experience a deep connection with, but who also may seem to be emotionally unavailable - could very well be INTP. Maybe it's an NT thing in general, but I can only really speak as an INTP. If it was someone like me, you should realize that it's not that we "aren't into you". It's just that we don't really know how to "do that". We can be a little bit inept in that area - especially compared to INFJ's. We can care about you tremendously and love connecting with you and talking about deep things, growing together, etc - yet still be very inept with our emotions.
I know for a fact that I would have a great time with most INFJ's. I love reading what you guys write (threads like this make me wonder if I have a little bit of INFJ in me), so I know that I could be a good listener if I were dating an INFJ (can't say that for all types), but I worry about you INFJ's. It seems like if I met one, I could totally be into her and feeling connected etc, etc - but she would take me emotional ineptness as me not being into her - and, like the theme of this thread, she would want to "journey on".
I do believe it's possible (and likely), that two types such as INTP and INFJ could both feel really connected and have a great time together and truly be loyal to each other in heart, mind, and spirit, but that the INFJ might sometimes feel that the INTP wasn't emotionally available. To have all of those other great things, but to also realize that we just don't "do that" (not necessarily because we don't want to, but we sometimes don't know how or aren't good at it) - couldn't the relationship still be really great and meaningful - the type of relationship that INFJ's desire? Or is it like the situation where, "I've finally met the person who has all of the things I'm looking for, but he's too short. I like tall men." And then you've essentially passed up everything you've been looking for because of 1 item.