Hm... I dunno. I feel like I get along with most types equally -- or at least it depends on the individual. The only reason why the "In Charge" vs. "Behind the Scenes" rivalry rang true for me, was that I always used to drive my INTP dad crazy, growing up. Any time I showed too much of the "In-Charge" thing without, in his view, doing enough preparatory calculation, it would really rub him the wrong way! I wonder if that's why ESTJs bother you, [MENTION=10653]Such Irony[/MENTION]? Too quick to act, without enough deliberation? And/or (another thing that bothered my dad
asking for more deliberative input only to not take that advice and go a different direction?
I think INTP might be a special case with In Charge types, because of the clash of the "Choleric" in both types.
This is why I like so much to correspond both Interaction Styles and Keirsey temperaments to the classic temperaments; because it creates a sort of "common variable" to understand the two levels of interaction through.
If Behind the Scenes is Phlegmatic or Supine, the Phlegmatic with his calm cool disposition is said to be the best one at handling the Choleric, while the Supine naturally looks up to someone to lead and make decisions.
But when Supine or Phlegmatic are mixed with Choleric in the same person, it creates a conflict, because part of him is inclined to yield, but the other part wants to be independent and even compete and fight for power, (especially knowing they have that more vulnerable part of themselves that needs to be "protected"). I certainly have recognized this in myself, and it's one reason I liked that temperament system so much.
From what I have seen, INFP and ISFP do not have quite the aversion to In Charge types I or @SuchIrony or [MENTION=4945]EJCC[/MENTION] viz his dad report, but rather tend to look up to them. After awhile they'll be put off by being dominated, but initially, they'll be drawn to the person doing it. (Also, from the cognitive angle, as Fi dom's, they'll have an "anima" dynamic [see below] with Te dom's).
ISFJ, I have not really seen, but would likely be inbetween INTP and IxFP, having some more independence than the latter, but are also "cooperative" if the In Charge type has legitimate authority and doesn't force them into unknown areas.
As far as ISFP's, what I see happening (basically, here on these type forums), is not so much about clashing or not getting along, but that we basically "miss" or go right past each other. If one pushes their functional focus on the other, then they'll get annoyed, or just tune the other person completely out.
Another dynamic that site let out was what Type Logic calls "Anima", and Beebe, the "inverse relationship". The type with all four dichotomies opposite, and the four functions in reverse (where Dynamic Opposite or Enigma have all eight reversed).
These types when younger clash it seems more than even the dynamic opposite. Again, those two types simply miss each other altogether (and thus not even have much to do with each other to clash over), where with the Inverse, there is a drawing, leading to a love-hate relationship. (The "hate" side seeming more conscious, at least earlier on).
The type INTP's have complained about the most is ESFJ. In my own case, growing up in a heavy "super-directive" TJ family, a "soft", responsive SFJ looked so nice, but then I saw the total opposition in the way we see and do things.
However, the "anima" dynamic means that they should ideally grow together, as they develop their tertiary and especially inferior (at first, they surface a lot, yet are still "primitive", and will probably be even more annoying to the other person preferring the functions! Like when a certain person goes from being super-critical to my ideas with Ti, to being super silly with Ne, and I don't feel like being bothered at that point. We call it "
frio-calienté". Then I become emotional, and dwell in the past!)