1) What is your enneagram core type and tritype?
6w5, 8dw, 3w4
2) If you had to be an enneagram type other than your own, which would it be?
I think the only one I would really want to be is 9w8. You get the peaceful nature of a 9, but with a bit of the bad ass edge of an 8.
Other potential types could be 5w6 (similar to what I already am), 3w4, and perhaps any of 7w8/8w7/8w9.
9w8 is the only one I'd
prefer to be over my current type, which is fitting, as its my integration point.
As difficult as being a 6 can be, if we can be healthy, I think we're pretty awesome.
5w6 could potentially rival 6w5, but the others I put do not, really.
3) If you could imagine an ideal SO, what enneagram type would he or she be?
Tough one.
I've figured for a while now that 9s and 2s would probably work best for me. Not sure when it comes to 9w8 vs 9w1 (actually, probably 9w1 [even though I don't like 1s much]), nor 2w3 vs 2w1 (actually, probably 2w3 [even though I don't like 3s much]). When I say it like that, tho, the 9w1 seems like it would be a
real frickin relationship. Like, that shit would be mad bonded. With the 2w3, while it would be could be effective, and it would certainly have its pluses, I feel like it might be a bit more shallow.
I also have this frickin thing with 4s -- they can drive me nuts, but I love them. If I could find a healthy 4, probably 5 wing preferred, but hell, I'd take a 3 wing as well. And that could be ENFP, INFP, INFJ, hell, even INTJ or ISFP.
And I hadn't thought of this one much, but looking at Jon's response, I could actually see myself with a 3w2. The problem is, kinda like the 2w3, it would be a bit more shallow. But differently than the 2w3. The 2 would just be so needy. The 3 issue would not be that. The 3 issue would be that the relationship would be so based on putting out an external image of awesomeness. Now, we could be awesome, but, honestly, there would be something kinda fake about it. It'd be kinda like being with Jerry Maguire's wife, at the beginning of that movie. Good sex. Power couple. But, ultimately, she's always super-focused on projecting an image. Her relationship would always be more with the
image of the relationship than with me. And I ain't really down for that.
And, lastly, when reading thru enneagram books, I've always, somewhat surprisingly, found the enneagram 8 descriptions kinda, I dunno, attractive. I've never dated one, I don't think, and I don't think female 8s are all that common -- I can't think of any I know (irl). I'm pretty much positive I'd prefer an 8w9. I think an 8w7 and I would probably have crazy sex and then kill each other. But yeah... 8w9. It actually kinda sounds better to me than 9w8. I think I need a strong woman, and an 8 would provide that. But I don't need a mindless warrior like an 8w7. The 9-wing would soften the edges of an 8 in just the way I need, cuz, while I need that strong woman, cuz I can be a blunt, insensitive asshole who needs someone who can take a straight dose of truth to the dome, I also need someone who can take the edge off, cuz the truth is, I'm not actually an insensitive asshole, I just communicate a bit like one. She could take care of the kids, I wouldn't have to worry about her being able to handle herself. She'd be able to tell me when to shut the fuck up and that I'm being an asshole or an idiot. I'd be able to argue back and not worry about breaking her by being honest. I dunno. There's something to that.
4) If you had to have one child, and you could choose his/her enneagram type, what would it be?
Hmm... probably a 9w1. Or a 2w3. Or even a 4w5. Those would be if it's a girl.
If it's a boy, shit, possibly a 6w5 (I could train him properly), or a 9w8 (I could learn from him/get along with him super well).
Aaaaand apparently there's some fucked up Electra Complex and/or vicarious living shit goin on up in my head.