Dom
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- Joined
- Apr 28, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
I enjoyed using my ENFP wife for sex for almost 2 whole years. But I guess I complimented her too much and didn't insult her enough, because she eventually got tired of me.
But actually, I was the one who didn't want to accept that the relationship was over, I literally begged for her to stay and not leave the family that we created, and she left anyway. Thankfully, because of my oh-so-practical SP attitude, I was able to eventually forgive her.
I think ENFPs do tend to hang about a bit longer, even after they realised it's all over; we bend. We want to be sure it's done and not just one of those times where the feelings wear off for awhile but normally return. However, once we hav made our minds up, it can come as a shock and we do tend to follow through. People often get supprised when the hitherto compromising enfp finally snaps backing into shape and refuses to bend for you again.
I'm sorry your marriage ended, especially as you have a family, I hope she explained why and how she felt she had tried to put it right before walking out?
Also I think this appeal people make to family is misguided, frankly the most important thing that holds two people together, whether parents together or not, is their own relationship. It seems people forget to make an effort to stay in love, and then appeal to the family when what the other person probably wants/needs to hear is how they are the centre of YOUR universe, not your kids... they probably already know that.