There are so many differences between us, I think. I just learned that my former bf of 4 years was an ESTP. Major differences:
- he is way more athletic. I love a few sports, but he lives and breathes all of them. He can't understand why on earth I'd ever stay home and read a book. He played every sport of every season - was on countless leagues. If he wasn't playing, he was watching. Couldn't tear him away from the TV in March.
- he dislocated his shoulder and still continued to play sports. Every time he did a jump shot, he would pop it out again. He was so used to the pain, he would reset the shoulder and continue to play. I had to force him to get surgery on it (pins put in). He was back on the courts within a month.
- also, when I forced him to have surgery, I forgot to show up. He said it wasn't important, so I didn't think it was important. Later, I found out it was important - but I don't get those things unless you tell me.
- he drinks way more than I think is humanly possible. I can definitely tear it up, but not more than 2x a week. He drank a lot when we were together. That's actually what ended our relationship. I hear he still drinks a lot.
-we both love to dance - but he is wild and always had a crowd around him, watching him.
- he was a lot more outgoing than I was. He also smiled a lot more. I usually got into the whole social thing when I was in a situation, but he sought out those situations. I was perfectly content never leaving the house unless there was somewhere specific to go.
- he was always amazed at my "observational humor" and how I drew connections.
- he was a packrat but yet still somehow neater than me. I have a lot less stuff, but there are just small little clumps of things randomly strewn around my apartment (books, records, etc...)
- he loved to cook - anything that involved tinkering with his hands - while I was much more theoretical. I came up with recipes in my head. He was the trial and error guy.
- he is a mechanical engineer because he loves to tinker with things. my degrees were more theoretical, but still science based.
- he was never afraid to ask anyone for anything - even their car. Don't know if that's an ESTP thing, but I could never do that. I'd rather walk.
- his presence was always felt. He filled up a room with his boisterousness. He always had music on, a loud booming voice and something was always being worked on.
- I got a lot more accomplished than him. Work, school, etc... He couldn't really multitask the same way. One thing at a time, generally.
- I always crash into things. That's my contribution to the noise making.
- sex was always a sport. with no warm up *ahem*. It seriously was very athletic.
- he had no patience for explanations. he only wanted to hear yes or no - that's it.
- he fell asleep a lot. On trains, park benches, etc. I guess he always wore himself out. I can't sleep in public. Matter of fact, I delay sleeping for days sometimes, whereas he was a slave to what his body wanted. If he was hungry, the world stopped until he ate. I could care less if I eat.
- he had problems with a lot of his friends as they all thought he was hitting on their girlfriends. I never sweated it since he wasn't the cheating type - he was too much of an open book. Also, he trusted me implicitly, no matter what I did, where I was going or whatever. He couldn't fathom anyone cheating on him, ever. (I never did)
- he loved playing with kids. I loved watching kids (ok, both of those sound creepy - I mean he is more about teaching kids how to play sports, where I was more about watching and observing the way kids process info and then teaching them science/math/vocabulary in the way they like to learn naturally).
- I was never allowed to open my wallet in his presence, ever. He was really into the whole macho stereotype thing. I thought that was silly and always tried to pay the checks when I got up to go to the restroom.
- he never held a grudge, ever. I don't either, but I am quick to write someone off and forget they ever existed. He welcomes anyone back with open arms after a few months of ignoring - even his best friend who tried repeatedly to sleep with me.
- he is always very "present" while I am more of a space cadet.