What do you mean by not understood?
Is there a way your friends can help try and relate to you better? Would you be ok with them just coming out and asking questions about you to help them understand you?
Fuzzcrossed really touched well on a reason why.
Honestly I'm not sure myself. I just feel like they don't know me... even my friends who I see every day - over 12 hours a week in and out of class. Particularly when we filled out a personality profile and they typed me as happy-friendly, a dominant leader, quick to jump to conclusions, and easy to get to know. On the surface I may seem like that, but inside there's a wholey different side...
Examples:
This week with personal drama dear ESxP friend tells me heart to heart she's going to be there for me etc etc... But when in conversation I touch on different things she doesn't pay much attention to what I'm saying. So focused fun and play in life - I wish she would seem genuinely interested and ask me probing questions, discuss how she relates and understands etc.
ISFP bf - always felt like it was such a surface relationship... He believed I was the most perfect girl in the world for him and loved me alot but it was a relationship full of Fi doting and sweetness. I longed to share depth of who I am, my thoughts, dreams, things that fascinate me, etc...
Same thing with another ISFP older friend - very sweet and thoughtful but not the honest understanding/relating to where I'm coming from.
IxFx - nice guy, more analytical. But he just has so many personal problems he's always leaning to me for caring and help, I feel like I couldn't ever open my life to him.
INFJ - very sweet, but obsessive about being fair to everyone in a group. Extremely hard on herself to be perfect. She doesn't have energy to make time to hang out with me -even though said she'd be there as a friend.
ENTJ Dad - he really cares about me at times, but he's on a
completely different wavelength. He entirely misses the big picture sometimes!
INFP Mom - biggest priority is avoiding conflict, so she'll agree with whatever you're saying regardless of if she agrees with it or not. She's a fantastic listener to my exciting life though!
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To answer your questions, I can't pinpoint it. But if I were to give advice to try to get to know your ENFJ better I'd say... - Ask more probing questions, without be obnoxious.
Be genuinely interested. We're not going to share our inner life with you unless we're completely comfortable and know you actually want to know - otherwise it just feels like we're burdening you with unnecessary information.
It's not that I think my friends don't care, they're great friends. I just feel missunderstood - like nobody truly knows me.
I really am thinking it's the Ni perspective... my INTJ friend truly understood - because he's the same way. Even more analytical and fascinated with how things fit together than I am. Plus usually I can instantly read people to quite an extent... he's one of the only people I know who's mind holds a fascinating mystery - with alot of different things going on in there like myself. The irony is I thought usually I don't like INTJs, but who knows...
What do you think?