Yes, it is unfortunate when the responses you recieve from people are one of two redundant themes.
"Who the hell does thatgirl think she is, someone should teach her she can't always get what she wants"
"So you slow down, seriously what were you thinking taking on so much, your young, you cant have it all you know. Grow up"
True, I hate it when people feel compelled to excuse their opposition as some agent of Fate in my life, rather than evaluating their own behavior to see if it's necessary. They're sort of blowing you off with responses like this.
I guess the frusteration comes from wanting to apply strategy, but getting hit with irrelivant tactical tactical tacticle.
It's pretty effective, isn't it? Long-term strategy doesn't necessarily always win, some people are only concerned about short-term success and really throw a wrench into things, able to erode you down bit by bit.
After a while you feel like everytime you come up with solutions, you are allowing other people to set the theme to your life, because the solutions you must come up with dominate your time and thwart your own plans while you struggle to just maintain. And then when people say well it will make you stronger, it is such a slap in the face, what does that mean, youll be able to piss even more people off with your bulldozer attitute. Its understanding the cycle that is frusterating.
You know the way around it, don't it?
^^^^ Go around it.
Or, perhaps, change the goal/conflict so that you no longer need to fight them. They'll have no power to get in your way.
Practical example:
In a relationship where someone's stomping all over your boundaries, basically stop arguing. Accept their reluctance to engage the way you think is necessary. Tell them what you're willing to do and what you're not willing to do to maintain things, then leave the ball in their court to respond. If they engage as you need, then you'll engage; if they don't, then you let the relationship stay wherever they place it.
See? Change your inner goal and what you're trying to accomplish to suit the resources you have as well as the opposition you are facing. Negate the opposition by reframing the conflict.
I wouldnt mind life and fixing things if the attention wasnt burning a hole in my back.
You're right, it's a tedious and exhausting pisser to keep dealing with the equivalent of piddly guerrilla warfare that seems to serve no larger plan. Stop letting them suck out your energy, stop engaging them as much as possible. They generally only have what power you give them.