I've read a bunch of stuff on women with aspergers. The only thing that ever confuses me is that they will claim that they are especially emotionally sensitive (to how they are being treated) but at the same time claim that they are not emotionally sensitive to others. How can you be both?
You've never met a person who gets offended really easily or seems sensitive or even gets their feelings hurt or get angry easily....but in the end seem like the most selfish person on the planet? Like they're only upset about themselves?
I'm not sure aspies are like this, because this is actually a trait that narcissists can have, they can get really easily hurt or offended by criticism but will treat other people really callously, coldly, even cruelly in extreme cases.
I know a guy with Aspeger's who is like a humanitarian, he's traveled to developing countries and done stuff with habitat for humanity, he is also really talkative, and apparently likes to talk to people, but it's more like he's talking at you, but he means well. You can see that he's socially kind of clueless, but that his heart is in the right place.
My niece always seemed like a grouchy, moody toddler, and would push people away, even head butt them, so she exhibited signs of extreme emotional sensitivity, but not sensitivity to others.
Of course she's had therapy and she's school-age now, but that's an example of someone being very emotional while not being very sensitive to others.
EDIT: the more that I think about it, I think the difference with Aspie's is actually obliviousness; even my friend who has Asperger's who is all down with causes and meeting new people, it's almost like he's too naive, like he'd just walk up to any seemingly receptive person and just start talking, and not realize if he was boring or annoying them, but not doing it with any malice or cruelty, almost like a hyper small child in that regard, probably could get him in trouble with bad people. I think even with more introverted and less feeling aspies, it's still obliviousness instead of cruelty, almost just like they just want to be left alone, and only want to talk to others to discuss hobbies or interests, not "socialize."
The narcissist is actually quite manipulative, so isn't so much oblivious, but actually does not care about anyone on a fundamental level other than himself, even when he imagines he loves, he loves an idealized projection, an extension of himself.