Azure Flame
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- Aug 26, 2010
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- MBTI Type
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- 8w7
I get along well with ESFP's but my best friend (ESFP) takes MONTHS to appologize...everything you've stated here is correct. I pretend to get along with ISFP's but they're the same...I loath them secretly tho( most of the time) the reason is YES, THEY DON'T FUCKING SAY SORRY!
Now that the rant's out of the way... To be logical: Being an Fi user...bad one but still one. I understand an introverted feeler waaay more than an extraverted feeler. Meaning I get TJ's and FP's... because the more someone holds back emotion...shows that they care to me...It's weird i know. But it's like a language in a way. My one friend was so happy i did something for her and her reaction was simply a hug, and I could see her holding back tears. That is more impactful than someone saying thank you i appreciate this. So the other answer is YES they're assuming. They assume that you know they're sorry from that look they're giving you...they're speaking Fi.
my ISFP ex would get upset anytime I vocalized my affection toward her, and she'd start pushing me away and acted like I was just some player out for sex.
I totally know what you mean by the whole "holding back" thing. And in a sense I wish I was capable of something like that, like how some people wait until the day before marriage to say "I love you" and it actually MEANS SOMETHING!
But even then I think the dynamic works out between NFJ's and STP's. I find NFJ's seek verbal affirmation, and I am willing to give that. In fact I need to, or else it bottles up, which is painful to me.