Why did you break this girl's phone?
The next time she did it I smashed her phone.
Yes I've noticed this. I think I do expect a form of submission. The way I view things, if they're willing to act submissive, it proves to me that they're willing to do what it takes to make things work between us. If they aren't, they aren't someone I wish to continue trying to connect with. More or less a test. This could be an E8 thing. When someone shows me they have the courage to submit, I'll actually pick them back up and dust them off and tell them everything is cool and act submissive in return, and thus respect them even more than I used to. But I have no tolerance for inflated egos.
That becomes problematic when two people are the same way inclined. Two immovable objects. That is why making a sandwich is the clever move.
That's true love, right there - listen, you like this girl, eh? Can you find a better way to communicate that? To reestablish contact?
Why? She sounds annoying. You never touch someones music. That is just wrong.
I feel like girls get horny when I'm pissed
they sound like a match made in heaven, no? Two immovable objects, testing each other with power sparks ...
She loves it when I clench my teeth, get aggressive at her and start making rape jokes. She starts laughing hysterically and her body actually recoils with energy. I haven't seen someone react like that before, haha.
There probably aren't that many women like that I think. I have no numbers though.
It is kind of fun power play thing you have going on. If you want to play that game you can't get upset.
That is breaking the rules.
I hope you take this without any ill will because thats the spirit it is given but @DJArendee I have read a lot of your posts here and you have a distinct pattern of interactions with others that is perplexing. It almost feels like an arrested development type of behavior. Major power struggles. Lots of ego. The way you handle things, unless you are joking and Im not getting it (entirely possible), isn't what or how I would consider someone who is fine reacts. Is this an overcompensation? I see a lot of volatility.
So, after learning some socionics, I've learned that Fi often ASSUMES the internal state of other people, while Fe needs to hear it in an objective fashion.
Simultaneously, I notice that Fe users tend to appologize much more readily than Fi users.
I recently was hitting on an ESFP. I told her she was attractive at one point. She then flipped and went princess on me. She was eating a salad out of a styrofoam bowl, and when she was done, held the bowl up to my face and said, "can you throw this away for me?"
I looked at her feeling pain from what she said, and responded, "because I'm such a nice fucking guy." I took her tray and threw it out for her and didn't speak to her for a month.
She started to realize that I had no intention of speaking to her ever again. I door slammed her. She started getting upset and anytime I was near she'd look at me a lot and make faces of concern. I don't know what emotion it was specifically. Some sort of remorse, guilt, something.
She's never appologized. I haven't bothered asking her to either. Last time I asked an esfp to appologize to me was a disaster.
So now she's super nice to me. So, in general Fi user fashion, I'm assuming this is her way of apologizing. I've had an INTJ appologize to me once when he started cleaning my room and asking me how my day was etc. I had an ENTJ appologize to me by looking at the floor and stating things awkwardly. So I assume its something similar with ESFP.
So now I'm wondering, is she actually sorry? Do Fi users need to appologize? Or should I just assume it?
From my perspective, the lack of an apology seems like a blatant form of selfishness, as if being right is more important than whatever else is on her mind. What do you think? What is going on in her mind? Why do Fi users do this? Is there something about their ego that prevents them from apologizing?
It was the result of her other tests, or just blatant inconsideration.
My music was hooked up to the stereo while I was teaching class. She'd come over and stop my music then put hers in.
At first I ignored it.
Then she did it another 3 times. I walked up to her and said, "can you at least ask before you turn off my music?"
She said, "sorry, but not really."
The next time she did it I smashed her phone.
I think she's an E6. In my experience those have almost always been very push pull and hurtful people to open up to.
Would you happen to be an E6? I find a lot of E6's feel this way toward me. [...] My INTJ 6 brother legitimately thinks I'm the next hitler.