wildcat said:
Introverted NP does not divide N.
Extraverted NP does not divide F.
wildcat can you explain this more? do you mean INFP is more in tune with both Ne/Ni and ENFP with both Fe/Fi?
violane said:
It's like they can't see past the words I'm using to my calm tone and demeanor.
are the people you're talking about Ti doms? this is a frequent source of misunderstanding between my INTP dad and myself. he reads only words, and not emotional language. i tend to read more into emotional language than specific words, and so i will misread into his emotions that, for him, mean nothing.
Annwn said:
I've wondered if the most empathetic person would be the least sensitive in their reactions to other people - at least in terms of taking things personally.
i think both yes and no... how much you understand about the other person's processing doesn't necessarily correlate with how you choose to respond to it, if that makes sense. i might understand that a friend treated me curtly in the heat of being stressed out by a project, but that doesn't necessarily mean i have to forgive her for treating me curtly, because, at some semi-conscious level, she decided that i was not worth treating kindly. i think because behaviors are based on so many different layers of thought and emotion, you can break them apart and accept some and reject others. in that case, i understand that emotionally she was stressed, and her cognitive resources were being devoted to the task at hand instead of attending to me. at the same time, there were other, less cruel options that she could have chosen that would not have hindered her greatly, and as such, i might wonder why she didn't choose one of those, and subsequently determine that somewhere along the line, i was not valued enough for her to put in the effort to treat me kindly.
so i guess my point is, that at some level, every interpersonal interaction
is personal, and your level of empathy really doesn't determine whether you decide to take something personally or not - it only shows you greater nuances and more options in terms of understanding why that person may have treated you like they did.
i think emotional boundaries are also somewhat separate, in that for a Fi dom/aux, we
must literally introvert the Feeling - ie, take it on as our own - to process it, much like Ti dom/aux create their own internalized system of logic to deal with external logic. this means Fi and Ti systems are more comprehensive and less ad-hoc, but also that they can't process information without taking it on as their own to a certain degree. whereas a Fe dom/aux can keep interpersonal distance while information-gathering with Ni or Si - they can find the info they need inside themselves, whereas Se or Ne need the external info. consequently FPs have to get closer to a person and dissolve boundaries to accurately assess Feeling, while FJs can more easily hold boundaries while assessing Feeling. this results in the FJ being able to keep better distance, but the downside of distance is... well, distance. distance protects both the individual subject and empath but at the same time removes them from one another - the distanced empath is less motivated to protect the subject, and the distanced subject is less motivated to trust the empath.