Whoa. This sounds like an unfortunate situation. And just out of curiosity...what on earth was this person saying to you in these instances where he believed he was picking-up on hidden messages? Like...'I'm reading into your silence that you have incredible feelings of affection for me'. There was actually an ENFJ member on this site that believed they were reading *hidden messages* in another members writing...but the other member had them on ignore ???
Ah, he kept insisting I was in love with him, and was afraid of my own feelings, thus not responding to him. He also read every single post I'd ever made, posts I'd written long before he was ever around, drawing wildly inaccurate conclusions about me & my life, to fit this ideal he'd set up in his mind and projected onto me. One example of a ''hidden message'' he thought I was giving him, was, during one of the phases when I wasn't posting here that often, I posted in my friend Nocapszy's blog when his cat had kittens, something like, ''aw, yer a daddy now!'' - the ENFP believed this was some secret way of me wishing
him a happy birthday, because it was the 1st time I'd posted in awhile, and it just so happened that it was near his birthday.. [I had no idea, I just wanted to appreciate kittens!]
He very heavily believed in/relied on his intuition, he repeated this often. Eventually I became to him similar to a character he'd written about for a college paper, some love story. He kept referencing it more and more. That was initially why he had my email to begin with, was that he'd written some plays, and because I'm a theatre dork, I said it'd be cool to read them sometime.
It was quite bizarre, and disturbing, the degree to which he allowed himself to escape reality. I felt bad for him; I imagine one must be incredibly isolated, in a lot of ways, to have that sort of capacity to live in one's imagination to that extent. But all the same, it makes things potentially quite dangerous. He fluctuated at some points in the constant emails between expressing and projecting his love, predicting my thoughts and feelings, to anger and trying to make threats to never interact with me again- basically was trying everything he could to get a reaction from me, to no avail. I do not know how far he would try to take that, if I were more physically accessible.
I hope the interaction he had with me was some kind of wakeup call that he needed to seek psychiatric help.
::edit:: I actually feel like an asshole for elaborating on some of the details now, even though it happened over a year ago. I'm mainly sharing so other people can understand/recognize this kind of unhealthy pattern, and deal with it accordingly before it gets out of hand.