Salomé
meh
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This reminds me of something someone said to me recently: "It's like you're inside-out, you show your worst side. You're the opposite of most people - they act friendly and caring but really don't give a damn; you really give a damn but act like you don't care".When people meet us together, they see him as the warm, friendly one and me as the cold, distant one. They instantly like him and distrust me. When they get to know us better and deal with us over a period of time, invariably, they gradually cut off ties with him and prefer to deal with me... which speaks for itself, I think.
True. And clinical cruelty is often perceived as being more frightening than someone having an emotional meltdown, although you're much more likely to be harmed by an impassioned hysteric than a psychopath.I think "warm" people sort of fear a person who seems not to have, or show feelings, and assume that this renders them more capable of cruelty...
A total lack of empathy does render a person more capable of cruelty, of course.
Personally, I think restraint is a massively under-appreciated quality. It gives me goosebumps. Perhaps that's because I know what's under the covers.