i've seen something similar in a friend of mine... i think what it is is a lack of grounding in reality. the person has such a strong focus on abstraction that their identity becomes a flexible thing, allowing them to make it whatever they want regardless of whether they are or are not that person.
I view reality as mostly momentary - it's more event-defined. As such, I don't fully comprehend this concept of 'grounding in reality' in its most literal sense. I don't think of reality as that long for ANYONE, let alone me, to get my feet on said 'ground' before the next 'reality' sets in.
my friend, who i suspect is an INTP or ENTP, often times refers to himself in the present in such a way as i know he only wishes to be in the future. another tendency he has is to tell stories to other people about things that have happened to me but as if it were him instead... i dont mind, of course, but i have to wonder if forsaking real world for the more attractive one in his imagination is unhealthy.
That would be lying. And, I don't think ENTP equals lying. Just that particular one, perhaps?
I could see myself focusing more on the 'wishing' part, but, when I speak of it, I will let it be known, "wouldn't it be awsome if I was/could...." "Imagine if...." "One day, I'm gonna..."
Secondly, people have a hard time believing some things that I say because they are apparently so *fantastical*, far-fetched....but, it actually
is the truth! I don't bother justifying...believe me or don't.
Thirdly, I very often pull people's leg....just to get a reaction, and for my own personal amusement, not in the very least actually believing what I say. For me, this is different from lying because the purpose is not for the other to believe in the lie, but, to test the OTHER,
will they fall for it? It's less about my interest in maintaining a facade surrounding the info and more about my interest in the receipient.
I am always aware of what I'm saying, and even those that make others go
and
are quite deliberate and intentional on my part.
Thus, the issue becomes that the other cannot predict me from their past interactions with me, as, depending on my mood, I can either be telling the honest truth or pulling your leg, which makes them then err on the side of skepticism and caution. Which is understandable. Do I care about the contradiction I present? Not particularly. Those that tough me out, finally get to know the nuances that let's them 'predict' which hand I
most likely am playing.
I usually cut it out when I feel that the other has reached a level of exhaustion with me, though.
(if I respect them in some way)