oiseaubleu
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- Jan 13, 2017
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- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w4
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So, I made this account specifically to talk about this issue.
I've had an online friend who's an ENTP for around 7 months. He and I slowly found out lots of similarities, and I mean LOTS of them. I have a tendency to get depressed during difficult times and he's always been there to listen. I've tried returning the favor by listening to his problems, and his issues are around only one thing: relationships. He seems to have a lot of trouble with them, and the ones he had apparently hurt him with things like cheating, which makes him wary of new ones whilst also being eager to have one. The problem is, every time he's on to opening up about it, there's so much anger that somehow ends up going towards me. Anything I say seems to escalate it and make end up badly, so most of the time I end the conversation with "okay" and stop talking (he has entire days of rage so I wait for things to cool down). He can't see the fact I'm trying to be a comprehensive friend and listening - any suggestions I give are received with sarcastic remarks, and in our last argument he criticized me saying I'm an "isolated human being". I'm very disheartened at the prospect of losing his friendship, but I am not willing to be someone's "punching bag" either.
My doubts are, should I just drop him despite our great dynamics (during 98% of the time, at least), try to be very open with him about it showing my side, not defend myself at all and just show him he's wrong?
Thoughts and suggestions are highly appreciated.
Sincerely,
clueless INTJ.
I've had an online friend who's an ENTP for around 7 months. He and I slowly found out lots of similarities, and I mean LOTS of them. I have a tendency to get depressed during difficult times and he's always been there to listen. I've tried returning the favor by listening to his problems, and his issues are around only one thing: relationships. He seems to have a lot of trouble with them, and the ones he had apparently hurt him with things like cheating, which makes him wary of new ones whilst also being eager to have one. The problem is, every time he's on to opening up about it, there's so much anger that somehow ends up going towards me. Anything I say seems to escalate it and make end up badly, so most of the time I end the conversation with "okay" and stop talking (he has entire days of rage so I wait for things to cool down). He can't see the fact I'm trying to be a comprehensive friend and listening - any suggestions I give are received with sarcastic remarks, and in our last argument he criticized me saying I'm an "isolated human being". I'm very disheartened at the prospect of losing his friendship, but I am not willing to be someone's "punching bag" either.
My doubts are, should I just drop him despite our great dynamics (during 98% of the time, at least), try to be very open with him about it showing my side, not defend myself at all and just show him he's wrong?
Thoughts and suggestions are highly appreciated.
Sincerely,
clueless INTJ.