I think extroversion is very misunderstood.
People seem to think that being an ENFP is all about this
But it is more like this,
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I know we are pretty much the cupid of personality types and relationships, especially intimate ones, are our biggest concern.
don't know that many ENFPs, so i may be mistaken, but from the ones here: it seems to me as though ENFPs value inner feelings more--as in, their sense of wellbeing is highly dependent on how the world perceives them?
So ENFPs would be charming, because they are highly energetic, bright and sensually warm, since it is affection they crave in return?
But the flakiness (pastries! ) probably comes about because they are insecure: when your sense of self is dependent upon the subjectivity of Ne-Fi, that would likely throw one into a loop. Likely to be initially enthusiastic but weak in following through. Charmingly scattered people, perhaps.
And will act out on the world around them when down, which makes it even worse. Third function Te implies the need to impose your thinking upon the world; however, applied in shadow means sometimes wanting to destroy all around out of frustration.
Si as the child: means refuge is sought in the safe and familiar. Likely sentimental folks then. With a tendency for nostalgia and clinging on, especially if the past brought warmth and affirmation.
Dana and Nameless sound more grounded/balanced to me, in the sense that they do not need to seek affirmation from everyone, only from those they respect. (perhaps the degrees of T and F here matter. Are both of yours more balanced on the T/F scale than CC, Hexis and perhaps tarabell??).
the above is just a guess. don't shoot me, ENFP flameballs.
don't shoot me, ENFP flameballs.
don't know that many ENFPs, so i may be mistaken, but from the ones here: it seems to me as though ENFPs value inner feelings more--as in, their sense of wellbeing is highly dependent on how the world perceives them?
So ENFPs would be charming, because they are highly energetic, bright and sensually warm, since it is affection they crave in return?
But the flakiness (pastries! ) probably comes about because they are insecure: when your sense of self is dependent upon the subjectivity of Ne-Fi, that would likely throw one into a loop. Likely to be initially enthusiastic but weak in following through. Charmingly scattered people, perhaps.
And will act out on the world around them when down, which makes it even worse. Third function Te implies the need to impose your thinking upon the world; however, applied in shadow means sometimes wanting to destroy all around out of frustration.
Si as the child: means refuge is sought in the safe and familiar. Likely sentimental folks then. With a tendency for nostalgia and clinging on, especially if the past brought warmth and affirmation.
Dana and Nameless sound more grounded/balanced to me, in the sense that they do not need to seek affirmation from everyone, only from those they respect. (perhaps the degrees of T and F here matter. Are both of yours more balanced on the T/F scale than CC, Hexis and perhaps tarabell??).
the above is just a guess. don't shoot me, ENFP flameballs.
elfinchilde, also, in case you missed this post.Dudes, where do ya'll live???
The older I get, the less "real" people seem, therefore any affirmation worthy of attention is incredibly rare.
I'M SURROUNDED BY ZOMBIES!!!!!
they're scawwy!!!
what part of "extreme dislike of criticism" dont you get?
what part of "extreme dislike of criticism" dont you get?
Good "guess!" I agree, and am impressed with your perceptions, because most people get it wrong.
You remind me of a girl-thing (not quite a girlfriend, but would have gotten there under different circumstances) who I think was an INTP. I had to get used to her knowing everything about me when no one else really got it right. It was weird because it was like no big deal to her to see right through me and it kind of threw me off because then none of the "charming" would work at all...
Is it something to do with the INTP type?
don't know that many ENFPs, so i may be mistaken, but from the ones here: it seems to me as though ENFPs value inner feelings more--as in, their sense of wellbeing is highly dependent on how the world perceives them?
So ENFPs would be charming, because they are highly energetic, bright and sensually warm, since it is affection they crave in return?
But the flakiness (pastries! ) probably comes about because they are insecure: when your sense of self is dependent upon the subjectivity of Ne-Fi, that would likely throw one into a loop. Likely to be initially enthusiastic but weak in following through. Charmingly scattered people, perhaps.
And will act out on the world around them when down, which makes it even worse. Third function Te implies the need to impose your thinking upon the world; however, applied in shadow means sometimes wanting to destroy all around out of frustration.
Si as the child: means refuge is sought in the safe and familiar. Likely sentimental folks then. With a tendency for nostalgia and clinging on, especially if the past brought warmth and affirmation.
Dana and Nameless sound more grounded/balanced to me, in the sense that they do not need to seek affirmation from everyone, only from those they respect. (perhaps the degrees of T and F here matter. Are both of yours more balanced on the T/F scale than CC, Hexis and perhaps tarabell??).
the above is just a guess. don't shoot me, ENFP flameballs.
I've been dissecting myself since age six or seven.^ eh? I did say i didn't know that many ENFPs. was just trying to rationalise it out based on the jungian type. sorry if it's wrong.
Can we please put you under the microscope then?
So what, ENFPs mostly take things out on themselves? That sounds very INTP-like, a scenario i'm most familiar with.
and eh? what's this about low self esteem? affirmation need not always relate to self esteem. I meant more what a person responds to: eg, some will respond better to rational dissection of their flaws and strengths, but for others, they prefer to hear nice things first, etc, and would learn better in an verbalised, affirming environment. That for an ENFP, it is more emotion they naturally respond to, rather than rationality.
is this clearer?
Tis true, we cannot help it!*aelan backs away from all NFs*
fireballs... they're all fireballs...