As an immature INFP I would not say anything in a relationship, and it led to me wanting
to get out and free. As an adult I've grown accustomed to the phrase "Hold up, I want
to do my thing." And that phrase does not mean that I'm bored with you, it means that
I need to focus my mind on frivolous matters to get my energy back up. As in, resting
my mind in a fantasy world where anything can be possible (Staggering back and forth
in real life - not being able to get shit done the way you want it, and always having to
put on a smile on your face - gets too much after a while). And that fantasy world is
usually filled with goofy cartoons and shit, it's never filled with "other" women. I'm
disinclined to fantasize about other people in a relationship, because the thought alone
seems like a disloyal thing to do, so I might as well be lying to / cheating on myself.
It doesn't matter if you speed up or slow down, you'll eventually wear me out (Having to
go there, move there, do this, do that, schedule this, schedule that, be social, always put
on a fake smile, be with boring people, etc.. I'm inclined to be pessimistic about life inside
my head, so these are things that will wear me out eventually). So if you're with someone
like me then just keep up the pace, do your thing, and be yourself, because you can't avoid
the inevitable. Just remember to keep all communications open, and you'll avoid the fall.
Does this make sense, or am I just ranting?