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A simple question; I presume anyone who does has thought on the subject prior.
Answer as you wish.
Answer as you wish.
Nah. I think of my personality more like a rubik's cube in terms of how I can display certain elements/shades/dimensions, by making minor adjustments [in a given situation, etc]. It's still all me. No deception, artificiality. I just only turn out what I want, when I want. I figure it's adaptive behavior- element of the innate fluidity within the human condition.
Same here, but instead of showing off parts of myself based on the setting, I hide parts. What people see is therefore the "real me", just nowhere near all of it.'Craft' implies deliberateness. I wouldn't say I do it deliberately, but I reflexively show off parts of my personality in certain settings and other parts of my personality in other settings.
Same here, but instead of showing off parts of myself based on the setting, I hide parts. What people see is therefore the "real me", just nowhere near all of it.
To me, a facade implies overlaying something artificial upon the "real" thing underneath. It is thus applied on top vs. subtracted from below. By your reasoning, everyone is either a completely open book, or a liar, and privacy, even modesty, are faults. Needless to say, I also disagree with your father's characterization of half-truths.No one else finds this to be a deliberate crafting of a facade but me?
It's literally a half truth.. my dad always told me half truths were still lies. Yeah, even with people I feel I am close to.. I will deliberately shape myself in order to maintain that relationship. So even though I'm really blunt, honest, and easy to anger.. my mother never ever receives any of that. It's completely deliberate. I *want* to be angry, but I create a persona that is not ever angry at her because she's a delicate personality that wilts easily and I don't feel like dealing with all of that. It's much easier for me to hold my anger in. The motivations behind it are genuine enough--that's a part of me--but the facade is still there.
Nah. I think of my personality more like a rubik's cube in terms of how I can display certain elements/shades/dimensions, by making minor adjustments [in a given situation, etc]. It's still all me. No deception, artificiality. I just only turn out what I want, when I want. I figure it's adaptive behavior- element of the innate fluidity within the human condition.
To me, a facade implies overlaying something artificial upon the "real" thing underneath. It is thus applied on top vs. subtracted from below. By your reasoning, everyone is either a completely open book, or a liar, and privacy, even modesty, are faults.
My limiting what is presented to others is deliberate in the sense that I understand how these reflexes operate, and generally choose to allow them to continue. I suspect most people do this.
I doubt many of us behave the same at work as at home, or with our friends as with our parents. Your holding back your anger while around your mother reflects the part of you that values your relationship, and preserving harmony in your interactions. These values and the actions they motivate are as much a part of you as your blunt honesty and anger. I would not call that a facade, but rather the side of you that you show around her. Another variation of using the right tools for the job.