skylights
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hm no offense southern, but this list kinda grates on me. it seems like a lot of stereotyping. i just don't understand why a lot of these are connected with introversion.
the problem with introverted writers who try to make introverts feel extra special is that they end up turning introversion and extraversion into things they aren't. introverts aren't more creative just because they're introverted, and extraverts don't renege on promises just because they're extraverted. everyone gets overstimulated at times (even sx/so extraverts!) and everyone has both close friends and acquaintances.
so as not to be totally counterproductive, i tried to make lists adapted from laney's that are more... well, that keep things to purely I/E differences and don't get into things that really aren't I/E related.
introverted tendencies
1. I like to have long, uninterrupted periods to work on projects, rather than small chunks.
2. I often rehearse things before speaking, sometimes writing notes to myself.
3. I often listen more than talk, even with close friends.
4. People often think I’m quiet, mysterious, reserved, or calm.
5. I often will pause to think before I respond if I'm not sure of my agenda.
6. I like to share special occasions with just one or two people, rather than have a big celebration.
7. I tend to zone out if too much is going on.
8. I more often prefer to watch an activity for a while before joining in.
9. My close friendships tend to be mostly long-term.
10. I prefer a conversational pattern where each person gets a long period to listen, and a long period to talk.
11. When I take in lots of information, it takes me a while to sort it out.
12. I become overstimulated more quickly than many people.
13. I tend to spend a good deal of time creating and imagining in my own mind.
14. I become progressively more drained as social situations carry on, even if I am enjoying them.
15. I prefer to be introduced rather than having to introduce others.
16. I often feel uncomfortable in new surroundings.
17. I tend to become grouchy around people or activities more quickly than many others.
18. I often dread returning phone calls.
19. I like people to come to my home, but I don’t like them to stay a long time.
20. I prefer not to show other people my ideas until they’re fully formulated.
counterpart extraverted tendencies
1. I prefer to work on projects in short bursts, moving quickly to the next thing.
2. I often figure out my thoughts as I am spekaing.
3. I tend to talk more than listen when I am engaged.
4. People often think I’m warm, open, enthusiastic, or sociable.
5. I tend to respond immediately, even if I'm not sure of my agenda.
6. I like to mark special occasions with big celebrations.
7. I tend to zone out if not enough is going on.
8. I more often will jump into an activity and figure it out as I go.
9. A fair amount of my close friendships end up being short-term.
10. I prefer a conversational pattern where the exchanges move quickly back and forth.
11. Very condensed information tends to leave me confused.
12. I need higher levels of stimulation than many people.
13. I tend to spend a good deal of time creating with my hands and sharing my ideas.
14. I become progressively more engaged as social situations carry on, and am often disappointed when they end.
15. I prefer to introduce others, rather than to be introduced.
16. I often feel bored in familiar surroundings.
17. I tend to be the last person sticking around in groups and activities.
18. I dread long periods of time without any contact.
19. I'd rather someone who visits my home stay for a while than to just pop in and leave.
20. I would rather get feedback on my ideas in progress than wait until they're completely formulated.
the problem with introverted writers who try to make introverts feel extra special is that they end up turning introversion and extraversion into things they aren't. introverts aren't more creative just because they're introverted, and extraverts don't renege on promises just because they're extraverted. everyone gets overstimulated at times (even sx/so extraverts!) and everyone has both close friends and acquaintances.
so as not to be totally counterproductive, i tried to make lists adapted from laney's that are more... well, that keep things to purely I/E differences and don't get into things that really aren't I/E related.
introverted tendencies
1. I like to have long, uninterrupted periods to work on projects, rather than small chunks.
2. I often rehearse things before speaking, sometimes writing notes to myself.
3. I often listen more than talk, even with close friends.
4. People often think I’m quiet, mysterious, reserved, or calm.
5. I often will pause to think before I respond if I'm not sure of my agenda.
6. I like to share special occasions with just one or two people, rather than have a big celebration.
7. I tend to zone out if too much is going on.
8. I more often prefer to watch an activity for a while before joining in.
9. My close friendships tend to be mostly long-term.
10. I prefer a conversational pattern where each person gets a long period to listen, and a long period to talk.
11. When I take in lots of information, it takes me a while to sort it out.
12. I become overstimulated more quickly than many people.
13. I tend to spend a good deal of time creating and imagining in my own mind.
14. I become progressively more drained as social situations carry on, even if I am enjoying them.
15. I prefer to be introduced rather than having to introduce others.
16. I often feel uncomfortable in new surroundings.
17. I tend to become grouchy around people or activities more quickly than many others.
18. I often dread returning phone calls.
19. I like people to come to my home, but I don’t like them to stay a long time.
20. I prefer not to show other people my ideas until they’re fully formulated.
counterpart extraverted tendencies
1. I prefer to work on projects in short bursts, moving quickly to the next thing.
2. I often figure out my thoughts as I am spekaing.
3. I tend to talk more than listen when I am engaged.
4. People often think I’m warm, open, enthusiastic, or sociable.
5. I tend to respond immediately, even if I'm not sure of my agenda.
6. I like to mark special occasions with big celebrations.
7. I tend to zone out if not enough is going on.
8. I more often will jump into an activity and figure it out as I go.
9. A fair amount of my close friendships end up being short-term.
10. I prefer a conversational pattern where the exchanges move quickly back and forth.
11. Very condensed information tends to leave me confused.
12. I need higher levels of stimulation than many people.
13. I tend to spend a good deal of time creating with my hands and sharing my ideas.
14. I become progressively more engaged as social situations carry on, and am often disappointed when they end.
15. I prefer to introduce others, rather than to be introduced.
16. I often feel bored in familiar surroundings.
17. I tend to be the last person sticking around in groups and activities.
18. I dread long periods of time without any contact.
19. I'd rather someone who visits my home stay for a while than to just pop in and leave.
20. I would rather get feedback on my ideas in progress than wait until they're completely formulated.
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