From the INTJ Forum - It seems INTJs develop friendships slowly, and relationships even slower.
I agree w/ this, but why do INTJs have to be so difficult and complicated? And how do you know when you’re actually in a relationship with an INTJ? This probably sounds like a stupid question, but I’m confused by an INTJ.
I’m currently involved w/ this INTJ male and I say “involved” because I really don’t know what we are doing. We have know each other for approximately 2 years and played the attraction game (flirting & calling each other, etc.) until I finally made the first move on him about 3 months ago. He said that he was attracted to me, but didn’t want to make the first move. So these last 3 months we have been having sex weekly and he calls me anywhere from 3 – 5 times a week and we talk for several hours. The thing is we never hang out w/ each other friends. He said he don’t think he is comfortable yet. I just find this strange after all this time. Also I would like to see him more. Of course I don’t tell him this; on occasion when he calls, I’ll tell him that I was thinking about him, and he’ll ask why I didn’t call him. I don’t want to tell him that if I called him every time I thought of him, his phone would be constantly ringing! I guess I just want more from him, but I don’t know how to approach him with this. Also I’ve thought that perhaps we are just “friends with benefits,” but then again, I don’t really need to talk to a friend with benefits for several hours a week. I just feel I’ve invested a lot into this guy, and am not getting enough back.
Any comments or suggestions?