The Great One
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I've heard that ENFP's aren't motivated by competition very much? Is this true?
True for me. I'm basically 'demotivated' by competition as it makes me uncomfortable. It's weird...I'll be interested in something and want to participate...but as soon as 'competition' comes into play - I'm out.
OP: i'd have hog-tied you with saran wrap by the time you finished that post.
but i may be confusing competition with sensuality.
Interesting. Why does competition make you feel uncomfortable?
...yes there is an element of sexiness to competition.
i think this may be more of an enneagram issue?
generally i am quite competitive, but i don't like open competitions (like performances).
and yes there is an element of sexiness to competition.
The fact that others will feel bad about themselves while you feel great when you win, makes me shy away from competitions. The general vibe of disappointment overthrows any potential fun and enjoyment of whatever the reward is. So..its a lose-lose situation for me.
The only exception I have is when nobody can lose. To give an extreme example, a competition in the bedroom to blow each others minds and drive each other beyond the point of return is most definitely something I'm up for and will gladly accept a challenge on. Otherwise, not my cup of tea.
I'm competitive. We always played board games growing up and I learned that you can win or lose but you should always play your best.
My circle of friends are all from board game group and there are no hard feelings over people winning games. These aren't simple games, some take 3 hours. If there does happen to be some stress after a game it just blows over anyway. I do like games like Dominion and Power Grid where I play by myself with other people.
i was always very competitive until i got into a position in which i was dominating all... then i would back down and support the underdog.
I have to laugh at this because I feel the complete opposite haha!!! I don't mind big egos so much when there is 'room for everyone' so to speak... But big competitive egos that suck all the air out of the room? No thanks. These kinds of people are decidedly unsexy to me lol.
The fact that others will feel bad about themselves while you feel great when you win, makes me shy away from competitions. The general vibe of disappointment overthrows any potential fun and enjoyment of whatever the reward is. So..its a lose-lose situation for me.
I do. I prefer not having to deal with crappy feelings that i induced.
lol, i get annoyed by that, but to be honest i usually find outright power struggles kind of funny because both people generally end up making asses of themselves.
anyway i am not against quietly trying to one-up people when it comes to looking good, doing the best at work, or catching attention from men of interest. i figure it's a fun challenge for me to engage in, with the end result being me trying harder and doing better at whatever i'm already doing. i'm not always very good at self-motivating, but if i use someone else as my yardstick (eg i would like my hair to consistently look as nice as emily's), then it's easier. usually i'll do something like that and will work on individualizing along the way. so i love emily's long wavy thick blonde hair, but that's her, not me - i'm going for long wavy voluminous strawberry blonde instead.
i'm also definitely a fan of trying to capitalize on my own strong points and encouraging others to capitalize on theirs, rather than fighting over one spot. people are naturally better in different ways, so best to encourage each person to succeed on their own path, the process of which not only helps them but also clears yours for you to shine.
haha...even though I was cracking up at what you said...I know you well enough to know what you meant by it and can understand in that way. And what you describe above...I think you are so right when you say this 'competition' thing is enneagram related. I've always felt like you have a strong connection to 3 and have a very healthy/positive expression of it.
I've heard that ENFP's aren't motivated by competition very much? Is this true?