nocebo
New member
- Joined
- Apr 25, 2009
- Messages
- 89
- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 7
Sort of like, "you're very smart and I love the way you phrased your argument, but I think that maybe there might be something off with the such and such...?" Is it like that? I don't know any INFPs very well, though I suspect that I might have run into a few (but never confirmed my typing).
(They expect you to read their minds!!
It gets easier with practice though, I think.
"You learn, in time, that when they give a hint that they don't like something or if they seem a little bit uncomfortable with something, you should assume that they are very against it. They are very non-confrontational. They want to tell you what they want/need/think in a very polite way and they expect you to get it.
This is simply an example, but if an INFP said, "You never take out the trash." That should be understood as, "I really think you should begin to take out the trash on a regular basis. In fact, I think it should be your job from now on." Because, in this example, if you started getting in the habit of taking out the trash and then stopped again, they may get a little more upset. And when you say, "Gosh, you never expressed how important it was to you. Why are you so upset?", then they might respond with, "What do you mean...I brought it up to you once before. I did tell you." When, in fact, they just made a simple statement that you didn't take very seriously because it may have seemed that it was just said "in passing" or in a very "light" way.
If they HINT at something, they mean it (IME). But, to them, it wasn't hinting. They explained it fully.
Haha. This is so true.
That being said, INFPs geniunely care about people's emotions in return, and they can be vey helpful during a difficult time... as well as encouraging and comforting in general. (I already said that, didn't I?)

