A Little Machiavellian Advice A Little Too Late but --
I always feel like I am too much, that I am
mmmmm why is it that as enfp's we seem to 'feel' others on a level that they are unaware that they are projecting? I hate that, hate feeling others emotions especially when I get the feeling they don't want anyone else to know I feeling like I am invading their privacy, I wouldn't want others to feel my emotions.
I get to be in a high emotional cut the tension with a knife b/c of me environment this weekend I am trying to mentally prepare for this... any advice from my fellow enfp's???
I think this super sensitivity and being empathic to almost being a psychic receptor is both a gift and a curse. A curse because if I'm correct in speaking for other ENFPs other than myself -- we literally *absorb* the emotional currents around us and we SEE people and we FEEL what they are feeling.
It's a curse because we have no choice in what kind of environments we are around. And why should we sometimes be the equivalent of a negative dumping ground for someone else? I think sometimes people can be assholes and WANT to make someone else feel bad and we unfortunately can be easy
prey.
But on the FLIP, and this is the answer to your question -- we can also turn into BEACONS and SEND OUT our vibes and 'infectious moods' instead of receiving. This is we're good at parties and on stage.
Turn OFF your receptor switch -- it might feel strange and unnatural and unpleasant at first. You will feel like you are talking through a wall to people, you won't be able to read their signals, you won't be as persuasive or connected to people.
BUT, for these reasons you will also be PROTECTED and if you instead focus on throwing out your own energy to be a BEACON instead of a receptor, you will get through the stressful event without feeling drained or used.
Take the energy and focus you usually use on OTHER PEOPLE to read and accomodate them and totally refocus it on yourself. Do
you!
The caveat is that later people may say you acted like an asshole or seemed distant, but depending on the occasion -- who cares?
I find that in my new career focus (and I will be working in a field with sharks and egomaniacs) that I leave my receptor switch off longer and longer and focus on impressing a strong image on others that is more intimidating and less warm and fuzzy. I still have a strong enough of an NF that even with my switch turned low, I can train myself to still be able to read people but not be affected by negativity. I can also come off as formidable and I definitely use this to my advantage.
Perhaps I am turning to the dark side?
Hahahahaa...um...actually it's not that funny if you think about it as a fellow ENFP.