Domino
ENFJ In Chains
- Joined
- Nov 5, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- eNFJ
- Enneagram
- 4w3
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I have to vent this.
As much as I truly truly love and adore ENTPs, they can possibly be the most aggravating people I've ever met if they're immature or broken in the head.
When they're down, they may seek you out for help or understanding, but then if they've decided to get the bit in their teeth and go all the way into perdition, they won't be swayed. I've watched several of them just march straight into their own destruction, all the while telling me - the person they actively sought out for understanding and comfort - that I'm "wrong" [pardon?] and that I couldn't possibly understand them [yes, yes, you're a big old unknowable glorious enigma... how stupid of me] plus a whole string of dramatic cynical statements meant to justify the bad act they're about to commit. [And it's usually pretty bad if they're already determined to go sideways through that turn...]
The very idea that anyone can see through them causes them to freak out. A lot.
If it's woman/man drama, it continues or gets worse. If it's drinking/drug abuse, it continues or gets worse.
When they think they've reached an epiphany, even if it's completely backward and only going to hurt them, they hold onto it like it came down Mt. Sinai. No amount of rational thought will change their minds. That's the one thing I really hate about Ne - when it thinks it's right, it's not just right, it's RIGHT!!!! [now in Technicolor]
Ne turns into a body shield. They're Superman. They're wisdom incarnate. No one else could possibly have thought about XYZ as deeply as them. I go from being the "person most wanted" to being patronized into the ground if what I'm saying doesn't jive with what they've adopted as truth.
And I'm saying this knowing that I'm extremely susceptible to ENTPs and wish to be acquiring (another) one as soon as practically possible (whenever Digest agrees to marry me, of course.)
Sorry to complain.
I just had one of these classic moments last night and I'm well put out of patience.
As much as I truly truly love and adore ENTPs, they can possibly be the most aggravating people I've ever met if they're immature or broken in the head.
When they're down, they may seek you out for help or understanding, but then if they've decided to get the bit in their teeth and go all the way into perdition, they won't be swayed. I've watched several of them just march straight into their own destruction, all the while telling me - the person they actively sought out for understanding and comfort - that I'm "wrong" [pardon?] and that I couldn't possibly understand them [yes, yes, you're a big old unknowable glorious enigma... how stupid of me] plus a whole string of dramatic cynical statements meant to justify the bad act they're about to commit. [And it's usually pretty bad if they're already determined to go sideways through that turn...]
The very idea that anyone can see through them causes them to freak out. A lot.
If it's woman/man drama, it continues or gets worse. If it's drinking/drug abuse, it continues or gets worse.
When they think they've reached an epiphany, even if it's completely backward and only going to hurt them, they hold onto it like it came down Mt. Sinai. No amount of rational thought will change their minds. That's the one thing I really hate about Ne - when it thinks it's right, it's not just right, it's RIGHT!!!! [now in Technicolor]
Ne turns into a body shield. They're Superman. They're wisdom incarnate. No one else could possibly have thought about XYZ as deeply as them. I go from being the "person most wanted" to being patronized into the ground if what I'm saying doesn't jive with what they've adopted as truth.
And I'm saying this knowing that I'm extremely susceptible to ENTPs and wish to be acquiring (another) one as soon as practically possible (whenever Digest agrees to marry me, of course.)
Sorry to complain.