The problem I always have with Stoicism is that one has to live a virtuous life in order to avoid reproach and to earn honor, but no one really spells out how "virtue" is to be defined.
I was thinking some more about Stoicism as presented in the video and decided (contrary to what I said above) that Stoicism is useful and even necessary in a certain context. First, let me generalize a bit some ideas about how we interact with the world. Then I'll show where Stoicism fits in, IMO.
In interacting with the world, I see four rough stages. (I even kind of model them off the four Jungian functions.)
Stage 1: Do a self-inventory and decide what your values are. This is the idea that I was talking about in my previous post. Your values boil down to the idea of "you do you," but first you have to figure out who "you" is. You have to reach inside for that; the world can't really tell you that by simply assigning you a job or a social class.
Stage 2: After you've decided what your values are, you still need to decide how you're going to manifest yourself/your values in the world and choose an appropriate persona or "personal narrative" to guide your actions and behavior. After all, what good are my personal values if I don't manifest them in some fashion in my daily interactions with others? In other words, if I've decided that my values correspond to traditional macho values, then I still have to figure out how to manifest those values in the world around me: Dirty Harry? The Marlboro Man? The strong, silent type? A leader of men? A seducer of women?
Stage 2 would be where Stoicism would come in handy. After all, it takes a bit of self-denial to maintain a persona or a personal narrative. If I want to be the strong, silent type, then I can't be whining or complaining about every little bump in the road. IOW, I can't be the strong, silent type in my head and a whiny little crybaby in real life; that's cognitive dissonance.*
Naturally, a persona or narrative isn't a straitjacket. One experiments with various personas and narratives throughout one's life and finds that different ones work better at different phases in life. Or one can compartmentalize and have one persona in the workplace and another at home. But still, at any given time in life we all want
some control over how we present ourselves in the world. And this is where Stoicism and self-denial come in. It's like the dude in the video said: If you're an emperor, then be the best emperor you can possibly be. If you're a slave, then be the best slave you can possibly be. If you're the strong, silent type, then strive to do
that to the best of your ability.
To sum up:
--At Stage 1, you decide whether you're an emperor or a slave (what your values are). Personally, I use Epicureanism as my way of determining my own values.
--At Stage 2, you decide how to manifest your values in the world around you in terms of behavior and actions (your persona or narrative). Stage 2 is going to require some Stoicism or self-denial if you want to do it right and really have your outer actions be a good reflection of your inner (Stage 1) values.
Further on down the road, Stage 3 and 4 get into the actual mechanics of how you deal with the world: What systems you set up in your daily interactions, how emotionally close or distant you are with others, etc. Boundaries, attachment styles, negotiation styles. It's a further refinement of your persona and how you manifest your values: Rules for your actual, concrete interactions with others. I won't go into the latter two stages here; I'm just illustrating how I see this stuff.
Anyway, this essay is just a brain dump. I'm not a fan of Stoicism, but I can see where self-denial fits into the process of creation and manifestation of an outer persona (Stage 2). So I figured I would amend my previous post accordingly.
* [ETA:] It's cognitive dissonance to be overly changeable and arbitrary in your actions unless of course your persona is specifically built on the concept of changeability itself. Example: The Diva persona. In that case, be as changeable and whacko as you want to be.
