Awww. This thread makes me appreciate ENFPs EVEN more and solidifies the idea that I am clearly not a Pe dom.
I think it's great my ENFP friends are usually the ones rallying everyone together. It was funny to me how obviously alien our strategies were at navigating the world. I could never see myself organising a surprise get-together the same way, and I think most INTJs would feel the same. I have a theory that: to just jump in and enjoy the ride with no planning is an INTJs worst nightmare. lol
Thanks for the input, Enthusiastic Dreamer. So it sounds like it is connected to the types then.
I think it's great my ENFP friends are usually the ones rallying everyone together. It was funny to me how obviously alien our strategies were at navigating the world. I could never see myself organising a surprise get-together the same way, and I think most INTJs would feel the same. I have a theory that: to just jump in and enjoy the ride with no planning is an INTJs worst nightmare. lol
Awww. This thread makes me appreciate ENFPs EVEN more and solidifies the idea that I am clearly not a Pe dom.
I keep getting the sense from this thread that you have a question but maybe do not have the words for it quite yet or fear it will be offensive to ENFPs if put into the words you do have lined-up...
Are you wondering if there is a cure for this condition?
Thanks for asking - hmmmmm not sure if I am intentionally working up to a larger question. I do spend a lot of time trying to understand the worldview and motivations of the people around me (actually "understand" is probably too weak a description, I tend to want to pull it apart as much as possible so I can really know it). My two ENFP friends actually make up a fairly large part of my social interactions, so I tend to focus on them heavily. I found them both baffling at first, less so after I found out more about MBTI, but they still continue to surprise me occasionally with just how differently they see the world, interact with others, and what they value.
Nah, definitely not thinking there is a *cure* though. Firstly I believe a lot of the differences between myself and my ENFP friends are due to a drastically different level of threat detection, which I doubt could be fixed without rewiring the whole brain. My ENFP friends, just like a few here have mentioned, love the adventure of the unknown and tend to believe they can handle anything as long as they are with their friends. This is such a radical view for me - I work everywhere to minimize surprises and the less people I have to rely on (or even been involved with), the better. Secondly, I can see the benefits of their approach, their social circles are big, people genuinely like their relaxed company, and overall they seem happier. I don't see these as disadvantages at all. Perhaps what I'm really wondering about is how much of that approach I could co-opt, and how I can square it away with my much more rigid personality.
This is not 'musing.' This is talking at a horse until it dies of old age, then shooting it with every caliber bullet from every possible gun ever invented (including revolutionary war cannons and spud guns) then setting it on fire, and individually carrying each speck of ash in opposing directions to opposite ends of the infinity universe.
McBoatFace...I wanted to quickly catch you while I see you are still online in order to ask ... How much do you know about enneagram? You are 6w5 and your friends are 7w6?
Why do you ask? Do you see a connection between the description of the interactions between my friends and enneagram?
I keep getting the sense from this thread that you have a question but maybe do not have the words for it quite yet or fear it will be offensive to ENFPs if put into the words you do have lined-up...
Are you wondering if there is a cure for this condition?
ENFP and planning- good lord lol (from an INTJ perspective)
Nah, definitely not thinking there is a *cure* though. Firstly I believe a lot of the differences between myself and my ENFP friends are due to a drastically different level of threat detection, which I doubt could be fixed without rewiring the whole brain. My ENFP friends, just like a few here have mentioned, love the adventure of the unknown and tend to believe they can handle anything as long as they are with their friends. This is such a radical view for me - I work everywhere to minimize surprises and the less people I have to rely on (or even been involved with), the better. Secondly, I can see the benefits of their approach, their social circles are big, people genuinely like their relaxed company, and overall they seem happier. I don't see these as disadvantages at all. Perhaps what I'm really wondering about is how much of that approach I could co-opt, and how I can square it away with my much more rigid personality.
If you and I had the opportunity to talk sans a technological device, that would be novel indeed. Those devices give us the capability to have conversations like this, with people all over the world that we would otherwise never become aware of, much less have the chance to meet.^ Yup. We talk to people without the protective shielding of a technological device - even strangers.
Novel, aint it?
And that is the million dollar question. If you can find (and share) the answer, well - you probably won't actually get $1M, but you will earn the appreciation of many of your inquiring type-mates.My ENFP friends, just like a few here have mentioned, love the adventure of the unknown and tend to believe they can handle anything as long as they are with their friends. This is such a radical view for me - I work everywhere to minimize surprises and the less people I have to rely on (or even been involved with), the better. Secondly, I can see the benefits of their approach, their social circles are big, people genuinely like their relaxed company, and overall they seem happier. I don't see these as disadvantages at all. Perhaps what I'm really wondering about is how much of that approach I could co-opt, and how I can square it away with my much more rigid personality.
I feel like I'm constantly dealing with pressure from Je types to be socially rallied. I'm more often trying to recruit one person to spend open ended quailty time together. And even when i do, i often find myself struggling to engage. I have really limited energy for social interactions that are purely social in nature. Give me a deep convo, an adventure, or a parallel shared experience (dancing or seeing live music), and I'm suddenly ready to engage.
... I can't just not tell you how happy and excited I am for you and your future when I read all of the bolded...every single amazing word of it. I needed to mention the enneagram, you see, in order to tell you that I could have not mentioned it (you seem to already know the enneagram without knowing much about it at all). When I consider all of what has been written in this thread...I love more than you will ever know that you found your pathway to integration.......... without the map.
How long will it be before you understand the significance of what I'm saying? Um, it could be a while. There is a good chance it will be challenging for you to see yourself in the descriptions of your true enneagram type and doubt may follow you for a while in this regard... And so I'm asking you to trust me...please believe me when I tell you to walk that path...figure out how to do it and walk it for it will lead you home. You are learning to let go of the fear. You are learning to trust yourself and others...and to have faith that everything is happening just as it should be and you can let go and feel at peace.
Thanks for the optimistic insights, the honest enthusiasm which you bring to the forum is stunning, lol. I'll have a think about what I can learn from my friends.
Exactly. The forum has no shortage of people who will come out and ask, "wtf is she saying?"I bring all the honest enthusiasm to the forum yard. Also -> I bring a good amount of "wtf is she saying?" to the forum yard as well... and yes, you're welcome.
If you ever have questions...if you have questions now or at some point in the future...please don't hesitate to ask.