Lilacliving
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- Joined
- Jan 12, 2017
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
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- sx/sp
I am an INFP who had dated a guy for around four months who was an ISTJ my freshman year of college into the summer. He was super polite when he was just interested in me and we pretty much "pre-dated" all of freshman year and we tried to make it more serious but I kind of panicked so we gave it a rest for a few months and then we tried it again the month before the semester ended, and I was all in.
I worked a pretty time demanding job over the summer and so does he, not to mention we live extremely far away from each other so the only contact we had was either video calls or texting. I begin to notice similarities between our estrangement and me and my previous ex-boyfriends horrible end to our last relationship, so I ended up panicking again, and I didn't want another horrible breakup and for him to leave me, so I ended it right before we went back to school. (So stupid) but I had some pretty bad reactions to my last break up and I couldn't go through that again. I apparently completely blindsided him though and he wasn't expecting it all.
when I got back to school I immediately regretted what I had done and I still do. I tried to meet up with him and talk it out, but he was mainly quiet, which is to be expected, and I mainly just apologized the whole time. Which is fine, that needed to be done. It's been a whole semester now and at first he was just kind of snarky to me when we would talk but eventually he kind of came around and things are pretty civil. It would be helpful though if I weren't a bumbling idiot every time I try to talk to him though lol...
I never really regret anything in life because I realize that everything needs to happen for its own reason, and I try to respect the faults we make. But this is something I can't really shake. I really know I messed up and I want to make it right. Even if it is just to be really good friends again. I just miss him. Any help would be great, thanks ☺
I worked a pretty time demanding job over the summer and so does he, not to mention we live extremely far away from each other so the only contact we had was either video calls or texting. I begin to notice similarities between our estrangement and me and my previous ex-boyfriends horrible end to our last relationship, so I ended up panicking again, and I didn't want another horrible breakup and for him to leave me, so I ended it right before we went back to school. (So stupid) but I had some pretty bad reactions to my last break up and I couldn't go through that again. I apparently completely blindsided him though and he wasn't expecting it all.
when I got back to school I immediately regretted what I had done and I still do. I tried to meet up with him and talk it out, but he was mainly quiet, which is to be expected, and I mainly just apologized the whole time. Which is fine, that needed to be done. It's been a whole semester now and at first he was just kind of snarky to me when we would talk but eventually he kind of came around and things are pretty civil. It would be helpful though if I weren't a bumbling idiot every time I try to talk to him though lol...
I never really regret anything in life because I realize that everything needs to happen for its own reason, and I try to respect the faults we make. But this is something I can't really shake. I really know I messed up and I want to make it right. Even if it is just to be really good friends again. I just miss him. Any help would be great, thanks ☺