autumnandtherain
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- Aug 10, 2013
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- MBTI Type
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- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I know that INTJs typically don't move very fast in relationships... But are there "stages" of a new relationship for them? And how fast do you (INTJs) typically take in getting into a new relationship?
I've known this INTJ for over a year now, and we were just friends for quite a while. I started being interested in him about five months in. After about 11 months is when I think he started to actually "notice" me as more than a friend. He lives a little far from me, but we started video calling each other a couple times a week, and that continued until last month, when we started talking a lot more and he started coming to visit me at least once a week and we've gone on a few dates. He made it very clear that he's interested in me, but that we are not a couple right now... He says he wants to know more about me before he makes that decision, so he's been asking me a lot of questions about myself, but seems very interested in what I have to say, and remembers everything.
Just curious about the time he's investing into this relationship, but his being hesitant to call us a couple. I have a feeling he's being sincere, but I was wondering if all INTJs go through this stage of "I like you but I must know everything about you before entering a serious relationship with you" type of thing.
I've known this INTJ for over a year now, and we were just friends for quite a while. I started being interested in him about five months in. After about 11 months is when I think he started to actually "notice" me as more than a friend. He lives a little far from me, but we started video calling each other a couple times a week, and that continued until last month, when we started talking a lot more and he started coming to visit me at least once a week and we've gone on a few dates. He made it very clear that he's interested in me, but that we are not a couple right now... He says he wants to know more about me before he makes that decision, so he's been asking me a lot of questions about myself, but seems very interested in what I have to say, and remembers everything.
Just curious about the time he's investing into this relationship, but his being hesitant to call us a couple. I have a feeling he's being sincere, but I was wondering if all INTJs go through this stage of "I like you but I must know everything about you before entering a serious relationship with you" type of thing.