i've actually tried that - once. i did not get the impression i did it well...
possible - i didn't catch up on the thread to check if their was any more info to type her by.
cracks do show and yet many seem to still try: essentially they get stressed by disorder and are very aware of it, but aren't preoccupied or interested enough to maintaining it, so its a constant loop back and forth - they need it but are rarely organized enough for their own standards. a good coping strategy i noticed a lot of them use is focus on certain aspects or areas which are orderly - something to focus on and give them some peace of mind in the chaos around.
I think the thing with NJs that you have to remember is that they have long-term vision or internal inspiration rather than Si telling them "things must be this way for me to be comfortable." Not that all SJs are Mr. Clean, but you know those people who act like cleaning and organizing is fun or something, like it's their hobby? I don't think those people are NJs.
When I say my friend is a "slob" I don't mean she's gross or anything, I just mean she's the sort of person who is probably best with having a maid or something; but she's almost always dressed well, and she is definitely an Fe dom...she has incredible charisma, and she is highly social, and she is a self-typed ENFJ, as well as me agreeing, she's very much I think the epitome of Fe/Ni/Se. Fe ethics and charm, Ni long term vision, and Se style as her hobby basically, without any kind of Si or Te emphasis on the order of things.
My Ni seems more...incidental. Like I make off-hand comments like, when I was 16 I had a dream I was living right outside of Vegas...and when I lived with my ex, we lived right on the outskirts, on the more suburban West side. Of Vegas. And I didn't move there with any conscious intention. And I ended up being a dancer in Vegas, and of course when I was 18 I thought that was a fantastic idea though it didn't happen til my early 20s. But there was no conscious push to make it happen. All I knew is I needed to move West, and I would get there by hook or crook.
And then when I was with my ex, I knew I felt this emptiness or lack where I had chosen to skip college...so when we broke up, I kind of randomly ended up...in college. It was a spur of the moment decision. But then there I was, in college, and kind of on the periphery of my vision, I had known for years it's what I wanted to do, and I kind of ...meandered into it.
And I always said I'd go back to California, and fie on my ex for keeping me in Vegas (lol at blame game) and here I am in California, and not just in California, but living near the beach, and the week I arrived 3 years ago, I said "yep, I'm gonna live here." Again, sort of meandered into it, but with a more intense focus.
It's like I don't have these 10, 20, 30 year "visions" but it's almost like I vaguely know what I'm going to do and where I'm going to end up. Like once I said "wouldn't it be fun to live in hotels." And I've lived in hotels. I said "I want to live in a commune" and boy, I ended up living in something that bordered quite gingerly upon being a commune.
Sometimes I wish I had this nice sharp dom/aux Ni to have this nice planned out life, but the truth is I fucking hate things being planned out that detailed and if it is, I go mad, like I need spontaneity or surprises to feel alive.
I've just had to learn to stop inviting bad surprises in the name of "excitement." Ah, maturity, it comes slowly for the likes of me.
I don't know where I'm going with this anymore, it's late, but with Ni it's more of a planfull nature for the long-term or big picture or wide scale rather than an obsession with scrubbing the toilet.
If an NJ is obsessed with perfect nails, I would guess they have tertiary rather than inferior Se.