[ENFP] How to spot an ENFP a mile off

[Thursday]

Physical gestures to accompany talking,
guilty

 

[Mikesen]

I think the points you guys are purporting are pretty spot on. The only problem is it seems our personality depends greatly on our external environment. For instance:

Since I graduated high school all of my friends have moved away to college. I have had a relatively small group of friends that I can get close to and because of it I've gone very introverted. I've been serious at every moment of the day.

Before they left I was as bubbly as you guys were describing. I did have my serious moments, and they may have been more common than my bubbly moments, especially when the topics of injustice and politics came up. My point here is this: I don't think a person's "bubblieness" is really going to help you spot an ENFP. Your best bets are hand gestures and their speech. The analogous speech is a dead giveaway. We literally do think in terms of comparisons and metaphors. But more specifically to identify the p in someone you have to look for the way they command things. If they come right out and tell you what you should do, they're J. If they suggest "we do something" then they're p. It's pretty helpful. Read The Pygmalion Project for the Idealist by Montgomery.

Edit: had to fix my 'their's. I don't usually mess up on those, but I have a lot lately.

 

[Butterfly]

I think the points you guys are purporting are pretty spot on. The only problem is it seems our personality depends greatly on our external environment. For instance:

Since I graduated high school all of my friends have moved away to college. I have had a relatively small group of friends that I can get close to and because of it I've gone very introverted. I've been serious at every moment of the day.

Before they left I was as bubbly as you guys were describing. I did have my serious moments, and they may have been more common than my bubbly moments, especially when the topics of injustice and politics came up. My point here is this: I don't think a person's "bubblieness" is really going to help you spot an ENFP. Your best bets are hand gestures and their speech. The analogous speech is a dead giveaway. We literally do think in terms of comparisons and metaphors. But more specifically to identify the p in someone you have to look for the way they command things. If they come right out and tell you what you should do, their J. If they suggest "we do something" then their p. It's pretty helpful. Read The Pygmalion Project for the Idealist by Montgomery.

Great insight!! and very true about the bubbliness and introvertedness!

 

[SillySapienne]

For what it is worth, I am *not* bubbly.

 

[alcea rosea]

I am bubbly (but no 100% of time) and very energetic. Very energetic.

Did I already mention that I'm very energetic?

 

[Butterfly]

I am bubbly (but no 100% of time) and very energetic. Very energetic.

Did I already mention that I'm very energetic?

heheh....yeah i think i may have heard the word 'energetic' in there somewhere

 

[alcea rosea]

heheh....yeah i think i may have heard the word 'energetic' in there somewhere

You might have.

I'm the power plant of energy for the people around me althought I do need people in order to get energetic.

 

[SillySapienne]

Beware of emotional vampires!!!

That's why CaptainChick has to peace out for a bit and go , sometimes.

 

[alcea rosea]

Beware of emotional vampires!!!

Yes, actually emotional vampires are one of the biggest problems I have currently. I really don't know how to deal with them and I certainly don't know how to hide my energy. If the energy flows, then it flows. I cannot restrict my energy because I love it (and hate it sometimes).

 

[illume]

I realize something that I do frequently when talking with people I know is voice characterizations. I especially love to imitate authority figures or people with unusual voices when reiterating prior conversations. I may make faces as part of the conversation as well. Seems to make the point over better, or to serve as levity at a darker moment. I can't remember when I started doing this, but I seem to be unable to stop.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

Yes, actually emotional vampires are one of the biggest problems I have currently. I really don't know how to deal with them and I certainly don't know how to hide my energy. If the energy flows, then it flows. I cannot restrict my energy because I love it (and hate it sometimes).

You're a people magnet. I'm about a bubbly as a glass or water. I will kill for that kind of energy.

 

[alcea rosea]

You're a people magnet. I'm about a bubbly as a glass or water. I will kill for that kind of energy.

Glass of water is very calming and it will help to balance the glass with the bubbly water.
* * *
Or the other way around. People are ENFP magnets. I need people in order to get some energy.

 

[The Third Rider]

Glass of water is very calming and it will help to balance the glass with the bubbly water.
* * *
Or the other way around. People are ENFP magnets. I need people in order to get some energy.

I am sure there is wisdom in that post but I am still trying to decipher it.

 

[alcea rosea]

I am sure there is wisdom in that post but I am still trying to decipher it.

There isn't usually any wisdom in my posts. My posts are just buch of random thoughts.

 

[Butterfly]

I am sure there is wisdom in that post but I am still trying to decipher it.

Yeah hes talking about the cause and effect. People usually see the effect- ie ppl are ENFP magnets, whereas the cause is that an ENFP is energetic because there are people around him, from whom he draws his energy from.
So he basically pointed out the cause which comes before the effect

What comes first, the chicken or the egg??

 

[Butterfly]

You're a people magnet. I'm about a bubbly as a glass or water. I will kill for that kind of energy.

Btw LosInnerSpace, This is sooo out of the topic, but I was reading an ENFP+INTP relationship post that you posted earlier (bcos i was researching my own problems), about some ENFP Indian girl whom you wanted to marry. So what happened there? You know the spy museum and all?? Sorry for being nosy, you dont have to tell me if you dont want to.
thanks.

 

[The Third Rider]

Yeah hes talking about the cause and effect. People usually see the effect- ie ppl are ENFP magnets, whereas the cause is that an ENFP is energetic because there are people around him, from whom he draws his energy from.
So he basically pointed out the cause which comes before the effect

ummm.........well..........yeah thats what I meant.

What comes first, the chicken or the egg??

The egg of course, there is scientific proof silly.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

Glass of water is very calming and it will help to balance the glass with the bubbly water.
* * *
Or the other way around. People are ENFP magnets. I need people in order to get some energy.

Sounds like a storm in a tea cup to me.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

Btw LosInnerSpace, This is sooo out of the topic, but I was reading an ENFP+INTP relationship post that you posted earlier (bcos i was researching my own problems), about some ENFP Indian girl whom you wanted to marry. So what happened there? You know the spy museum and all?? Sorry for being nosy, you dont have to tell me if you dont want to.
thanks.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

What comes first, the chicken or the egg??

The crocodile. I have a theory on this. If you look at crocs who have not evolved much in 150 million years, their eggs are leathery. My theory is that a some point these lizards where giving birth to their young in a kind of membrane, which over time evloved into a leathery egg. The leathery eggs then evolved into egg shell which are basically made of calcium.