Chuckums
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- Dec 3, 2009
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- ISTP
She came here asking for help and you are all welcome to pick my message apart. Please, at least step up and agree or disagree . Thank You.
Just your willingness to be around him and not pursuing other men is telling him you care and there is no doubt in my mind, from what you have said, that he knows you care. ISTPs don't need a lot of emotional reassurance/support-a very low maintenance personality type. They pretty much take care of themselves and just knowing someone likes them is all they really need, but because of this and other traits, they can easily be viewed as uncaring and apathetic!
It may be kind of awkward at this point, but a present is a nice thing for ISTPs-but they are the hardest type to buy a present for! I didn't want to even go there, too complicated and seems just plain wrong at this point, but maybe later-who knows? Special food is almost always a hit with ISTPs.
Try not to be too controlling as that can really freak them out, but adding some sound structure to their lives can be a positive enhancement.
One of the biggest +s is when people are fair to them. Now, if he is not "hooking up" with anyone else, then he could very well view you "hooking up" with someone else as being unfair. Weird, huh?
He is a young ISTP, and you dumping your emotions on him can cause an emotional "defensive wall" to pop up, hence the perceived apathy I mentioned earlier. ISTPs are not very good at conveying their true emotions and it may be that he doesn't yet realize "what he has"-may take a while.
This will sound nuts, but this could very well be the case with him-
As of right now, your relationship is in limbo, and he may be comfortable enough with that, because as long as it stays that way, he knows he won't "lose" you. All right, that was nuts, but try not to use too much of your NF thought process when analyzing ISTPs.
What are some of the actions that I can take to convey to an ISTP that I care for him?
Just your willingness to be around him and not pursuing other men is telling him you care and there is no doubt in my mind, from what you have said, that he knows you care. ISTPs don't need a lot of emotional reassurance/support-a very low maintenance personality type. They pretty much take care of themselves and just knowing someone likes them is all they really need, but because of this and other traits, they can easily be viewed as uncaring and apathetic!
It may be kind of awkward at this point, but a present is a nice thing for ISTPs-but they are the hardest type to buy a present for! I didn't want to even go there, too complicated and seems just plain wrong at this point, but maybe later-who knows? Special food is almost always a hit with ISTPs.
Try not to be too controlling as that can really freak them out, but adding some sound structure to their lives can be a positive enhancement.
One of the biggest +s is when people are fair to them. Now, if he is not "hooking up" with anyone else, then he could very well view you "hooking up" with someone else as being unfair. Weird, huh?
He is a young ISTP, and you dumping your emotions on him can cause an emotional "defensive wall" to pop up, hence the perceived apathy I mentioned earlier. ISTPs are not very good at conveying their true emotions and it may be that he doesn't yet realize "what he has"-may take a while.
This will sound nuts, but this could very well be the case with him-
As of right now, your relationship is in limbo, and he may be comfortable enough with that, because as long as it stays that way, he knows he won't "lose" you. All right, that was nuts, but try not to use too much of your NF thought process when analyzing ISTPs.