meowington
Parody Parrot
- Joined
- May 22, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 6w7
I don't really know to be honest, I guess I've just never had the desire to be in a relationship with somebody like that. If someone comes along and they're the girl of my dreams and I fall in love then sure haha, but I'm not actively searching for a partner. It's probably partly because I feel like I have too many mental issues (although I don't know what those issues are) to be able to maintain a relationship like that. I'd have to pretend to be normal for too long and it would drain me haha.
I'm just gonna assume you're a lot younger than I am. Because I think I can give you a pointer on this : all my adult life I've been convinced there was something wrong with me, even though everybody I know disagreed. Most people I talked to about this, said I just have the tendency to think too much or think the worse (trademark enneagram 6, just like you apparently). I even had myself professionally tested for schizophrenia at some point (came out negative). Talked to 4 different psychologists and psychiatrists. Plenty of years later the only thing that's wrong with me is that I have a tendency to think there's something wrong with me. This has also not stopped me from building up a perfectly normal life.
I'm aware we may not be exactly alike, but just wanted to share this from my own experience. My life goal now is to learn to let go of things more easily and not overthink things. Ora et labora. By which I mean I need to be aware of a balance between thinking and actively living in the physical world and doing stuff like exercising, going out, etc. And the more I do that, and the more life experience I have, the more I actually feel perfectly normal.
It amazes me how many people deal with this, not just INFJs.
Besides, every little pot has a fitting lid.