It
is depressing. In fact, in my case, it hurt me to my very core when I was younger because it is such an integral part of who I am that I didn't even consider the notion that maybe this isn't the way it works for everyone. And if you therefore wrongly assume that others have the same senses as you and same skills to certain degree...it would mean that although they understood perfectly what you were trying to say, they just don't give a damn and truly didn't consider your pov valid and even pretend to misunderstand you and twist your words. Nothing hurts more, imo, or makes you doubt yourself more.
I never understood why it was that others had no problems hurting and judging others, and I never understood why they considered my well meant behavior as hurtfull and selfish. And even worse, when a miscommunication occurred, they weren't interested in finding out what had happened. They had their own ideas and moved on, judging me wrongly, I felt. Caused me a lot of grief, as I didn't wanna become insensitive to people or grow a 'thick skin' as was so often suggested to me (that just feels like I'm dead), and at the same time I wasn't able to understand why they acted like that.
Of course, this was all seen through my eyes, and I wasn't able to gain the distance I needed to see what was going on. Have to admit that especially MBTI has been rather helpful on this